When a Brother or Sister Dies: Looking Back, Moving Forward

When a Brother or Sister Dies: Looking Back, Moving Forward

by Claire Berman

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Overview

The trauma of losing a sibling when we are in our adult years is one of the most unrecognized and undertreated areas of psychology. There is no other loss in adult life that appears to be so neglected as the death of a brother or sister, says bereavement specialist and psychologist, Therese Rando. And Rando is just one expert author Berman interviews in this moving book about loss. We see here how, when an adult dies, the parents, spouse, and children of that person become the focus, but brothers and sisters most often fall to the sidelines and are left to find a way to deal with the grief and recover alone. Yet, when a brother or sister dies, we lose our longest lifetime companion, someone with whom we have shared an intimate family history. And, in most cases, that was someone for whom we had conflicted feelings: shared identity yet competitive feelings, pride yet jealousy, love yet hate. Most of us come to make peace with the relationship at some point. How to make peace with the death of the sibling - which can conjure up a well of feelings, from wishing you were closer to wanting to change some past events you shared - can haunt an adult. But author Claire Berman, who lost her own sister to heart disease in the week of September 11, 2001, when America lost its innocence, takes us into the emotional world of sibling loss, showing us how to understand and navigate the aftermath of a loss that can leave adults feeling angry, confused, guilty, empty, or just like Berman, wanting to hit that speed dial button still marked with her sister's name.


This book includes interviews with psychologists and counselors who specialize in bereavement issues and have worked with some of the adults who tell their stories of loss in these pages. The text addresses the effects and recovery for survivors who lost a sibling to chronic illness, to sudden death, and to suicide. The healing process, from shock to mourning and, ultimately, moving on is described. Natural questions about our own mortality that a sibling's death raises are also addressed. Appendices feature further resources and sources of help, from websites and books to sibling support groups.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780313355288
Publisher: ABC-CLIO, Incorporated
Publication date: 02/17/2009
Pages: 140
Sales rank: 886,932
Product dimensions: 6.30(w) x 9.30(h) x 0.60(d)

About the Author

Claire Berman, is a freelance writer, former Director of Public Education for the Child Welfare League of America, and former Executive Council member for the American Society of Journalists and Authors. Specializing in writing about the emotional dimensions of family relationships, she has authored or co-authored eight books, and her articles have appeared in publications including Reader's Digest, McCall's, Family Circle, Good Housekeeping, Woman's Day, and The New York Times Magazine. Berman has appeared on the Today show and has been featured in People magazine.

Table of Contents

Introduction

Chapter 1: Siblings: A Complex Relationship

Chapter 2: And Then There Was One

Chapter 3: But You Have Other Siblings, Dont You?

Chapter 4: Anticipatory Grieving

Chapter 5: Death by Suicide

Chapter 6: 9/11 Dealing With a Public Death

Chapter 7: Losing a Twin

Chapter 8: The Bereavement Support Group

Chapter 9: Resolving a Discordant Relationship

Chapter 10: The Legacy of Loss in Childhood

Chapter 11: When the Spirit Moves You

Chapter 12: The Rewards of Ritual

Chapter 13: Continuing the Connection

Chapter 14: How Do We Help Someone Who Is Grieving?

Chapter 15: What About Me?

What People are Saying About This

Kenneth J. Doka

"This book offers sound support and sage counsel to those adults experiencing the loss of a sibling. While the book is grounded in the most current perspectives of grief, it is deeply compassionate, well-written, and offers wise advice to all those who experience this common yet disenfranchised loss."

Kenneth J. Doka, PhD Professor of Gerontology The Graduate School The College of New Rochelle Senior Consultant, The Hospice Foundation of America

Kenneth J. Doka

"This book offers sound support and sage counsel to those adults experiencing the loss of a sibling. While the book is grounded in the most current perspectives of grief, it is deeply compassionate, well-written, and offers wise advice to all those who experience this common yet disenfranchised loss."

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