Personal stories of surviving after the trauma of sexual assault.
In the era of #MeToo, we’ve become better at talking about sexual assault. But sexual assault isn’t limited to a single, terrible moment of violence: it stays with survivors, following them wherever they go.
Through the voices of twelve diverse writers, Whatever Gets You Through offers a powerful look at the narrative of sexual assault not covered by the headlines—the weeks, months, and years of survival and adaptation that people live through in its aftermath. With a foreword by Jessica Valenti, an extensive introduction by editors Stacey May Fowles and Jen Sookfong Lee, and contributions from acclaimed literary voices such as Alicia Elliott, Elisabeth de Mariaffi, Heather O’Neill, and Juliane Okot Bitek, the collection explores some of the many different forms that survival can take.
From ice hockey to kink, boxing to tapestry-making, these striking personal essays address experiences as varied as the writers who have lived them. With candor and insight, each writer shares their own unique account of enduring: the everyday emotional pain and trauma, but also the incredible resilience and strength that can emerge in the aftermath of sexual assault.
- Gwen Benaway
- Juliane Okot Bitek
- Elly Danica
- Amber Dawn
- Alicia Elliott
- Karyn Freedman
- Heather O’Neill
- Katherine Laidlaw
- Elisabeth de Mariaffi
- Lauren McKeon
- Soraya Palmer
- Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha
- Kai Cheng Thom
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About the Author
Stacey May Fowles is an award-winning novelist, journalist, and essayist. She is the author of three novels and a work of nonfiction, and has edited two previous anthologies. Her bylines include the National Post, the Globe and Mail, Elle Canada, Maisonneuve, VICE, Jezebel, and many others. She lives in Toronto, Ontario.
Jen Sookfong Lee’s books include The Conjoined, nominated for the International Dublin Literary Award and a finalist for the Ethel Wilson Fiction Prize, The Better Mother, The End of East, and Gentlemen of the Shade. Based in Vancouver, BC, she teaches writing at The Writers’ Studio Online with Simon Fraser University.
Jessica Valenti, called one of the Top 100 Inspiring Women by the Guardian, is a columnist for the Guardian US and a feminist author. Her most recent book, Sex Object: A Memoir, was a New York Times bestseller. She lives in Brooklyn, New York.
Table of Contents
Foreword Jessica Valenti ix
Introduction Stacey May Fowles Jen Sookfong Lee 1
My Hand Became a Fist Lauren McKeon 11
The Goose Heather O'Neill 27
My Forbidden Room Alicia Elliott 39
Skinny Days Juliane Okot Bitek 55
The Salvation in My Sickness Kai Cheng Thom 73
Weaving a Path to Healing Elly Danica 91
Silence Gwen Benaway 107
The Quiet Ice Karyn L. Freedman 125
This (Traumatized, Kinky, Queer) Body Holds a Story Amber Dawn 143
A Sister by Water, a Sister by Blood Soraya Palmer 161
Not Over It, Not Fixed, and Living a Life Worth Living: A Disability Justice Vision of Survivorhood Leah Lakshmi Piepzna-Samarasinha 181
The Mother You Need Elisabeth de Mariaffi 201
What People are Saying About This
"Challenges even readers familiar with sexual violence narratives in their assumptions about what survivors need."—Publishers Weekly
"These writers' prose and generosity are nothing short of profound."—Booklist (★)
"The anthology’s monumental triumph is in the unfiltered agency of its writers."—Globe & Mail
"The editors...have chosen a dozen voices for this survivors’ chorus. Each...is unique, and none seem tempted by the saccharine truisms of pop psychology or TV versions of 'redemptive recovery.' They all tell their own difficult truths in memorable language."—Vancouver Sun
"One of the stunning elements of Whatever Gets You Through is the theme that survivorhood is multi-faceted, contradictory, and individual...the book doesn’t offer a cure, because it acknowledges that one doesn’t exist."—Loose Lips Magazine
"It’s not possible to cure survivorhood, not as an individual and not as a culture. Nor, this collection argues, should we, because it can be a powerful source of creativity and power."—Quill & Quire
"Whatever Gets You Through is a salve, a soothing whisper, and a necessary roundhouse kick to the worst of rape culture. These texts are a varied, imaginative, and essential addition to survivor literature." —Zoe Whittall, author of The Best Kind of People
"These essays remind us that survival, like the Me Too movement itself, is an arduous yet inspiring process—because it's thrilling when so many resonant voices, unheard for so long, are emboldened to speak their truth at once." —Lynn Coady, author of Hellgoing