We Said, They Said: 50 Things Parents and Teachers of Students with Autism Want Each Other to Know

We Said, They Said: 50 Things Parents and Teachers of Students with Autism Want Each Other to Know

by Cassie Zupke


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When parents and educators fight, our kids lose. So why are good, reasonable parents and skilled, compassionate educators locked in battle? After listening to hundreds of parents, teachers and school administrators, Cassie Zupke found the answer. Although the demands of educating a child with autism forces parents and educators to work closely together, their ability to function as a team is often hampered by their lack of understanding of each other’s motivations and limitations. This creates an environment of mistrust, frustration and fear that can turn a classroom into a war zone. We Said, They Said: 50 Things Parents and Teachers of Children with Autism Want Each Other to Know voices what parents and educators want to say to each other, but don’t. It explains why they do what they do. It helps fill the chasms of misunderstanding that breed assumptions like They don’t care about my child, and They’re just in denial. It gives educators and parents the necessary tools to build the relationships they need to help their children.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781935274865
Publisher: Future Horizons, Inc.
Publication date: 08/15/2013
Pages: 288
Product dimensions: 5.09(w) x 7.99(h) x 0.76(d)

About the Author

Cassie Zupke is the mother of three teenagers, one of whom has mild autism.  A former engineer in NASA’s Deep Space Network, Cassie is also the director of Open Doors Now, a non-profit education and support group for students with mild autism/similar disorders, their families and educators.  During the eight years since ODN’s inception, Cassie has designed and operated parent mentoring and support programs; social skills/friendship programs for children, teens and young adults; and educational presentations for parents and educators.  Cassie has helped train hundreds of K-12 teachers and administrators about autism and how to include children with autism in general education classes.

Table of Contents

25 Things Parents of Children with Autism Want Teachers to Know
 1. Listen to Me
2. I Didn’t Cause My Child’s Autism
3. Typical Parenting Skills Are Not Enough
4. I Have No One to Guide Me
5. Hooey
6. Social Rejection
7. Giving Me Advice
8. My Goals for My Child
9. My Child’s Developmental Path
10. The Grieving Process
11. Hope and Delusions
12. Acceptance and Realism
13. My Options
14. Dealing with Transitions
15. Childhood Development
16. What Are We Doing?
17. Your Challenges
18. Can I Trust You?
19. I Need to Prove Myself
20. I Need Data
21. Why Sometimes I Don’t Try
22. I’m Tired
23. I Am Afraid
24. Don’t Give Up on Us
25. I Love My Child
25 Things Teachers of Children with Autism Want Parents to Know
 1. I Care about Your Child
2. Autism May Be New to Me
3. Teaching Methods
4. Your Child’s Privacy
5. The Other Students in My Class
6. Can I Trust You?
7. What Kind of Parent Are You?
8. Yelling Never Works
9. Lawsuits
10. Services, Accommodations, and Modifications
11. I Don’t Have a Magic Wand
12. Assessing Your Child’s Progress
13. Why I Tell You Things You Don’t Want to Hear
14. Realism and Acceptance
15. Teaching Independence
16. Special Education Is Changing
17. Living, Vocational, and Social Skills
18. The Future
19. If You Have Questions, Ask Me
20. Homework
21. Consultations
22. What You Model at Home
23. Funding
24. Medicating Your Child
25. Get Involved

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