Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us available in Paperback
Since the dawn of civilization, men and women have been magnetically and irresistibly drawn together into romantic relationships, not so much by what they see, feel and think, but more by invisible forces. When individuals with healthy emotional backgrounds meet, the irresistible "love force" creates a sustainable, reciprocal and stable relationship. Codependents and emotional manipulators are similarly enveloped in a seductive dreamlike state; however, it will later unfold into a painful "seesaw" of love, pain, hope and disappointment. The soul mate of the codependent's dreams will become the emotional manipulator of their nightmares. Readers of the Human Magnet Syndrome will better understand why they, despite their dreams for true love, find themselves hopelessly and painfully in love with partners who hurt them. This book will guide and inspire both the layman and the professional.
|Publisher:||PESI Publishing & Media|
|Product dimensions:||5.90(w) x 8.90(h) x 0.50(d)|
About the Author
Ross A. Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, is a recognized expert in the fields of codependency and co-addiction, trauma recovery, and teen and family counseling. His treatment specialties are in the fields of sex, love and internet addictions.
Since 1988, he has been a psychotherapist, business owner and professional trainer in the mental health, social service and/or child welfare fields. Ross is also an often-sought national keynote speaker and professional trainer, providing seminars on sex, love and internet addictions, codependency, narcissism and borderline personality disorders. He is the owner of Clinical Care Consultants, a counseling center in the northern suburbs of Chicago.
Table of Contents
Chapter 1 The Inevitability of Our Future 1
Chapter 2 Codependents, Emotional Manipulators and Their "Dance" 5
Chapter 3 Emotional Manipulator & Codependent Relationship Dynamics 11
Chapter 4 "The Odd but Natural Couple" 29
Chapter 5 Introducing the Continuum of Self Theory 33
Chapter 6 The Emotional Manipulation Disorders - Defining the Disorder 55
Chapter 7 The Human Magnet Syndrome 61
Chapter 8 The Origins of Codependency 69
Chapter 9 The Origins of Emotional Manipulation Disorders 87
Chapter 10 Codependency 97
Chapter 11 Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) 113
Chapter 12 Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) 129
Chapter 13 Antisocial Personality Disorder (ASPD) 137
Chapter 14 Why We Can Reach Codependents and Not Emotional Manipulators 145
Chapter 15 The "Golden Rule" of the Helping Professions 155
It's Never Too Late To Be Who You Might Have Been
Emotional Manipulators and Me - The Evolution of the Concepts
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
I would like to thank the author for providing this information in an understandable format. It answered a lot of my questions and opened my eyes to a lot of the reasons why I personally kept going back to a relationship that I knew was off the charts bad for me, even though it was ongoing for over 20 years. I feel much more confident that I can move forward in making progress in a positive direction, because now I understand a lot of the whys of the past. I can't say enough about how great this book is and how grateful I am I came across the title and bought it. This information is truly life changing for me.
This book is much better than I expected it to be. Ross Rosenberg really has tried hard to put together a clinical perspective of codependency. The weakness of this text, as some others have noted, is that the core points could have made with much less filler and the scientific basis is lacking somewhat. Rosenberg, as far as I can find, is not an active researcher publishing research. On the other hand, he does not claim to to be, and he is quite honest about his model is a rule of thumb that is only applicable in one dimension. I especially appreciate how Rosenberg raises points of relative cultural values--specifically stating that he is not experienced in other cultures, but other norms are possible. This makes me feel Rosenberg is not over the top and claiming to have some universal theory. He never does that. Rather, Rosenberg stays very close to what he knows from his counseling experience. Compared to a couple other very good books on the topics: Codepency for Dummies and Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life, this book is actually more complete in its contextualization, and its scientific approach. Not super hard science, but still, well grounded in his practice. Rosenberg's work differs in that it focuses on the balance of the relationship. The symmetrical situation is the core of this book, and I found it very insightful.