An extraordinary book for anyone eager to understand the hidden motives that shape our lives.
We are all storytellerswe create stories to make sense of our lives. A moving collection of short, personal encounters between a psychoanalyst and his patients, The Examined Life reveals how the art of insight can illuminate the most complicated, confounding, and human of experiences. Ultimately, these stories show us not only how we love ourselves but how we might find ourselves.
|Publisher:||Norton, W. W. & Company, Inc.|
|Product dimensions:||5.50(w) x 8.30(h) x 0.60(d)|
About the Author
Stephen Grosz is a practicing psychoanalyst who has worked with patients for more than twenty-five years. Born in America, educated at the University of California, Berkeley, and at Oxford University, he now lives in London.
Table of Contents
How we can be possessed by a story that cannot be told 1
On laughter 11
How praise can cause a loss of confidence 18
The gift of pain 23
A safe house 28
On secrets 39
On not being in a couple 44
A passion for ignorance 55
On intimacy 63
The bigger the front 67
At home 73
How paranoia can relieve suffering and prevent a catastrophe 81
On the recovery of lost feelings 86
Why parents envy their children 91
On wanting the impossible 96
On hate 101
How lovesickness keeps us from love 109
How a fear of loss can cause us to lose everything 121
How negativity prevents our surrender to love 125
On losing a wallet 130
A change in the family 136
Why we lurch from crisis to crisis 141
On being boring 146
On mourning the future 151
How anger can keep us from sadness 158
On being a patient 167
Going back 179
On bearing death 189
Through silence 199
On closure 206
On waking from a dream 211
Sources and Notes 217
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
An amazing book: profound and deeply moving I've given it to friends, and will do so again. So heart warming and beautifully written. Each story leaves you with an insight into what mahes us behave the way we do. Read it in one long sitting: I couldn't put it down.
Great book! Couldn't put it down. A good life lesson or insight in every chapter.
This is a beautifully written book. I came across it by accident while browsing in my local library. I started reading, and found that I couldn't put it down. It's written with such clarity and insight into human behavior that it's impossible not to be moved.
I read a variety of books and this one was was just what I needed after the Racketeer. I would love to have a light conversation with this gentleman, Stephan Grosz.
Exceptionally well written, easy to understand for the lay reader, and beautiful wisdom guiding the reader to want to read it over and over.
I bought this back after it was hailed as one of the 10 best books of 2013 by a New York Times staff book critic. I hate to say it but I found it profoundly disappointing all around and have decided not bother finishing it half-way through. I realize some readers have really enjoyed it, but felt obligated to let other potential readers know it may not suit everyone. Contrary to others' opinions, I found the writing mediocre (like reading a draft), and the stories a dull parade of ordinary hang-ups and habits. Unfortunately, Grosz's analyses struck me as banal, often tracing patients' problems back to childhood events in some clichéd version of psychoanalysis. On self-examination, re-reading Dostoevsky's "Notes from Underground" or any other great novel would likely be a lot more rewarding.
"Okay but now Grayfrost wont gimme back MY kits."