The Everything Guide to the Introvert Edge: Maximize the Advantages of Being an Introvert - At Home and At Work

The Everything Guide to the Introvert Edge: Maximize the Advantages of Being an Introvert - At Home and At Work

by Arnie Kozak


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Discover your introvert power!

Society is finally beginning to recognize the true value of introverts—their observational skills, creativity, and strong focus. If you prefer solitary activities and intimate gatherings to lively outside stimulation, The Everything Guide to the Introvert Edge will show you how to harness the power of your disposition and use it to conquer any situation. With this guide, you'll learn how to:
  • Embrace your quiet temperament.
  • Engage others effectively.
  • Thrive in an extroverted world.
  • Promote your unique strengths.

You don't need to become an outgoing extrovert to be successful. This essential guide will help you change the way you look at yourself and use your personality to win—at home, in social situations, and at work.

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Product Details

ISBN-13: 9781440568169
Publisher: Adams Media
Publication date: 11/05/2013
Series: Everything®
Pages: 304
Product dimensions: 7.90(w) x 9.10(h) x 0.70(d)

About the Author

Arnie Kozak, PhD, is a psychotherapist, clinical assistant professor in psychiatry at the University of Vermont College of Medicine, and workshop leader at the Barre Center for Buddhist Studies, The Copper Beech Institute, and the Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health. He is author of Wild Chickens and Petty Tyrants: 108 Metaphors for Mindfulness, The Everything Guide to the Introvert Edge, The Awakened Introvert: Practical Mindfulness Skills for Maximizing Your Strengths and Thriving in a Loud and Crazy World, The Everything Essentials Buddhism Book, and Mindfulness A-Z: 108 Insights for Awakening Now. Arnie has been practicing yoga and meditation for over thirty years and is dedicated to translating the Buddha’s teachings into readily accessible forms. In the long winters of northern Vermont when he’s not working, he rides the frozen slopes on his snowboard. During the short summers, he golfs. During all seasons, you can find him trail running with his dogs in the foothills of the Green Mountains.

Table of Contents

Top Ten Things Introverts Need to Know to Thrive in an Extrovert World 12

Introduction 13

01 Introversion Is Not Contagious 15

Introversion Is a Basic Way of Being 16

A First Look at Defining Introversion 18

The Difficulties of Being an Introvert in an Extrovert Culture 20

Social Skills versus Social Preferences 23

The Introvert from the Extrovert's Perspective 24

Benefits of Introversion 25

The Introvert Revolution 26

02 Confirming Your Introversion 29

There Are More of You Than You Think 30

Jung's Theory of Personality Types 30

Defining Introversion from Personality Theory 33

The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) 34

The Big Five Personality Traits Theory 35

Pathological Introversion 87

Take the Quiz 38

Limits of Measurement 40

03 The Near Enemies of Introversion 43

The Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) 44

Shyness 46

Social Anxiety Disorder 47

Asperger's and Autism Spectrum Disorder 48

Loners 48

Hermits, Recluses, and Misanthropes 49

Schizoid Personality 50

Depression 51

Obsessive Compulsive Spectrum Disorders 52

Burnout 53

04 The History of Introversion 57

Famous Introverts 58

Famous Fictional Introverts 58

Television Portrayals of Introverts 59

Movie Introverts 61

Extroversion Is Downright American 63

05 The Science of Introversion 67

The Reactive Child 68

It's in Your Genes: The DNA of Introversion 70

The Orchid Hypothesis 71

Evolutionary Advantages and Disadvantages 72

Stimulation 74

The Neuroscience of Introversion 75

Cross-Cultural Perspectives 77

6 The Introvert Mind 79

Cognitive Styles 80

Rumination 82

Social Cognition 82

Doing Versus Being 84

Energy Patterns 85

The Importance of Retreat 87

Finding the Time: Micro-Retreats 88

07 Emotional Intelligence 91

Understanding Emotional Intelligence 92

Introversion and Multiple Intelligences 93

Listening: The Foundation of Presence 93

Listening Within: The Key to Wanting 95

Compassion and Empathy 97

Overcoming Fear Lessons from The Fear Project 98

The Introvert Advantage: Handling Reward 99

The Introvert Disadvantage 101

08 Happiness 105

What Is Happiness? 106

Whose Happiness? 108

The Happiness Industry 109

The Religion of Healthy Mindedness 110

The Role of Adversity in Happiness 112

Forget about Being Happy 113

Trying Without Trying 114

9 Creativity and Introversion 117

Fostering Creativity 118

Accessing the Unconscious 119

Solitary Expression 121

Writing Practice 122

The Artist's Way 124

Thinking Outside the Box 125

Flow 127

10 Private Predilections at Work 129

Private Made Visible: The Open Workplace 130

Does Brainstorming Work? 131

The Dangers of Groupthink 133

Coping with Conflict 134

Does the Extroverted Workplace Work? 135

Introverted Leaders 137

An Introvert's Work Survival Guide 139

11 The Introvert in the Classroom 145

Coloring Outside the Lines 146

Cooperative Learning 146

To Participate or Not to Participate 148

An Introvert Guide for Teachers and Parents 148

Introverts in Higher Education 151

Future Directions 152

12 Raising Resilient Introverts 155

Extrovert Parent with an Introvert Child and Vice Versa 156

Mixed Siblings 157

A Parent's Guide for Introverted Children 158

Nurturing Resilience 161

An Introvert Manifesto for Young People 163

13 Embracing Introversion in the Age of Narcissism 165

Understanding the Self-Esteem Trap 166

Healthy Narcissism 167

Coping with Disappointments, Setbacks, and Failures 168

Be Authentic in Relationships 170

Introversion as an Antidote to Narcissism 171

14 Navigating the Social Landscape 173

What Is Social Intelligence? 174

Communication Skills 175

Protecting Yourself from Energy Vampires 178

Becoming Invisible 179

Social Media for Introverts 180

Party Survival Guide 181

Surviving the Holidays 185

15 Close Relationships 189

The Dating Scene 190

How to Get Along with an Extrovert 191

Intimacy with Fewer Words 194

Harmony 196

FOMO 197

Healthy Balance 198

16 Guardians of Solitude Lost 199

The Importance of Solitude 200

The Place for Solitude 201

Making Solitude a Priority 202

Solitude in Connection 204

Between Fusion and Disconnection 205

Raising a Family 206

The Value of Vulnerability 207

The Physical Space of Solitude 209

The Case for the Interior 211

17 The Portable Introvert: Contemplative Practices to Develop the Interior 213

The Contemplative Introvert 214

Nurturing Your Introvert 215

Mindfulness and Meditation 217

Qigong: The Embodiment of Tao 218

Tai Chi Chuan 220

Yoga 220

Reading in the Age of Information 221

Going Off into the Wilderness 222

Recharging and Renewal: Introvert Utopia 223

18 The Tao of Introversion: Finding Yin in a Yang Culture 225

Lessons from Taoism on Balance 226

Dispersion and Collection: The Balance of Yang and Yin 227

Grounded 228

Slowing Down 230

Unplugging 231

The Silence Between Two Waves of the Sea 232

19 Going Beyond Introversion and Extroversion 235

A Buddhist View of the World 236

The Constructed Self 236

Introverts Are Misfits, but Everyone Suffers 237

Self Is a Metaphor 238

The Buddha Was an Introvert 239

Sitting in Silence Together: The Buddhist Sangha 241

20 A Field Guide to Becoming a Pseudo-Extrovert 243

Life as Performance 244

Working the Room 246

Practice Public Speaking 249

Finding Your Style 250

Balance and Restore Your Energy 251

Finding and Occupying Your Voice 252

Smiling 253

21 For Extroverts Only 257

Give Introverts a Break 258

Finding Balance 259

Midlife 260

Tap into Your Natural Introvert 261

Opening Up 262

Pacing 263

An Introvert Guide for Extroverts 264

22 Owning Your Quiet 267

Starting the Conversation: Asking the Right Questions 268

Giving Yourself Permission 269

From Chaos and Rigidity to Integration 269

Sleep Is the Foundation of Your Energy 271

Following Your Bliss 272

Recommendations for Society Hooked on Extroversion 274

The Courage in the Dark 278

Coming Home 280

Appendix A Introvert Author Web Resources 283

Appendix B Introvert Blogs 285

Appendix C Books Cited 287

Appendix D Other Introvert Websites 291

Appendix E Online Videos 293

Index 295

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