What if one simple choice could unlock your destiny?
Already a major Japanese bestseller, this eye-opening and accessible follow-up to the “compelling” (Marc Andreessen) international phenomenon The Courage to Be Disliked shares the powerful teachings of Alfred Adler, one of the giants of nineteenth-century psychology, through another illuminating dialogue between the philosopher and the young man.
Three years after their first conversation, the young man finds himself disillusioned and disappointed, convinced Adler’s teachings only work in theory, not in practice. But through further discussions, the philosopher and the young man deepen their own understandings of Adler’s powerful teachings and learn the tools needed to apply them to the chaos of everyday life.
To be read on its own or as a companion to the bestselling first book, The Courage to Be Happy reveals a bold new way of thinking and living, empowering you to let go of the shackles of past trauma and the expectations of others, and to use this freedom to create the life you truly desire.
Plainspoken yet profoundly moving, The Courage to Be Happy will illuminate your life and brighten the world as we know it. Discover the courage to choose happiness.
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About the Author
Ichiro Kishimi was born in Kyoto, where he currently resides. He writes and lectures on Adlerian psychology and provides counseling for youths in psychiatric clinics as a certified counselor and consultant for the Japanese Society of Adlerian Psychology. He is the translator, into Japanese, of selected writings by Alfred AdlerThe Science of Living and Problems of Neurosisand he is the author of Introduction to Adlerian Psychology, in addition to numerous other books.
Fumitake Koga is an award-winning professional writer and author. He has released numerous bestselling works of business-related and general nonfiction. He encountered Adlerian psychology in his late twenties and was deeply affected by its conventional wisdom–defying ideas. Thereafter, Koga made numerous visits to Ichiro Kishimi in Kyoto, gleaned from him the essence of Adlerian psychology, and took down the notes for the classical “dialogue format” method of Greek philosophy that is used in this book.
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Author’s Note Authors’ Note
Alfred Adler, the thinker who was a hundred years ahead of his time. Though he stands beside Sigmund Freud and Carl Gustav Jung as one of the most important figures in the world of psychology, Adler was for many years a “forgotten giant.” Since the publication of The Courage to Be Disliked, the context of Adler and his school of thought has gone through a remarkable transformation. Adler has been widely known in Europe and America for some time. But now, after our book spent a record-setting fifty-one weeks as a number-one bestseller—having sold millions of copies in South Korea and Japan—I have a strong sense that Adler is present within many people, and no longer needs introduction. There is something deeply moving about his ideals being accepted in Asia after the passage of a hundred years.
The Courage to Be Disliked is a kind of map for informing people of the existence of Adlerian psychology, and for giving an overview of Adler’s ideas. It is a grand map that we put together over the course of several years, with the intention of creating a definitive introduction to Adlerian psychology.
The Courage to Be Happy, on the other hand, is a kind of compass for actually putting Adler’s ideas into practice and leading a happy life. And it may also be thought of as a collection of behavioral guidelines showing how one may progress toward the objectives laid out in the first book.
In The Courage to Be Happy, once more we find the philosopher engaged in a dialogue with the pessimistic youth. Three years after the conclusion of The Courage to Be Disliked, the youth, who has become a teacher with the intention of putting Adler’s ideas into practice, calls on the philosopher one last time. Frustrated with Adlerian psychology and angry with the philosopher for introducing him to Adler’s ideals, the youth has returned to the philosopher’s study to challenge everything the philosopher taught him and insist that he cease to corrupt other young minds with ideals that don’t hold up in the real world when interacting with real people. Calmly, the philosopher invites the youth to join him for one final conversation about having courage not only to take the first step toward happiness, but to continue walking along the path of self-improvement in order to love, be self-reliant, and nurture community feeling.
In what way can we make concrete progress on the path to happiness shown in the preceding volume, The Courage to Be Disliked? How can we put Adlerian psychology into practice in our everyday lives? And what is that conclusion arrived at by Adler, “the biggest choice in life,” that everyone must make in order to live in happiness?
The curtain opens once more on this strong-medicine philosophical dialogue. Do you have the courage to climb the stairway of understanding with the youth?
Table of Contents
Authors' Note xiii
Part I That Bad Person and Poor Me
Is Adlerian Psychology a Religion? 5
The Objective of Education Is Self-Reliance 12
Respect Is Seeing People as They Are 21
Have Concern for Other People's Concerns 29
If We Had "the Same Kind of Heart and Life" 34
Courage Is Contagious, and Respect Is Contagious Too 37
The Real Reason Why One "Can't Change" 43
Your Now Decides the Past 48
That Bad Person and Poor Me 51
There's No Magic in Adlerian Psychology 57
Part II Why Negate Reward and Punishment?
The Classroom Is a Democratic Nation 65
Do Not Rebuke and Do Not Praise 69
What Is the Goal of Problem Behavior? 75
Hate Me! Abandon Me! 80
If There Is Punishment, Does the Crime Go Away? 88
Violence in the Name of Communication 95
Getting Angry and Rebuking Are Synonymous 99
One Can Choose One's Own Life 103
Part III From the Principle of Competition to the Principle of Cooperation
Negate Praise-Based Development 115
Reward Gives Rise to Competition 119
The Disease of the Community 122
Life Begins from Incompleteness 126
The Courage to Be Myself 135
That Problem Behavior Is Directed at "You" 139
Why a Person Wants to Become a Savior 143
Education Is Friendship, Not Work 149
Part IV Give, and It Shall Be Given Unto You
All Joy Is Interpersonal Relationship Joy 157
Do You Trust? Do You Have Confidence? 162
Why Work Becomes a Life Task 169
All Professions Are Honorable 173
The Important Thing Is "What Use One Makes of That Equipment" 178
How Many Close Friends Do You Have? 185
First, Believe 189
People Never Understand Each Other 193
Life Is Made Up of Trials of "Nothing Days" 197
Give, and It Shall Be Given Unto You 201
Part V Choose a Life You Love
Love Is Not Something One "Falls" Into 209
From an Art of Being Loved toward an Art of Loving 213
Love Is a Task Accomplished by Two People 217
Switch the Subject of Life 221
Self-Reliance Is Breaking Away from "Me" 225
To Whom Is That Love Directed? 233
How Can One Get One's Parents' Love? 237
People Are Afraid of Loving 243
There Is No Destined One 246
Love Is a Decision 250
Re-Choose Your Lifestyle 253
Keeping It Simple 261
To the Friends Who Will Make a New Era 264