The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood and Family Relationships in the Digital Age

The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood and Family Relationships in the Digital Age

by Catherine Steiner-Adair


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Have iPads replaced conversation at the dinner table?

What do infants observe when their parents are on their smartphones?

Should you be your child's Facebook friend?

As the focus of family has turned to the glow of the screen—children constantly texting their friends, parents working online around the clock—everyday life is undergoing a massive transformation. Easy availability to the Internet and social media has erased the boundaries that protect children from the unsavory aspects of adult life. Parents often feel they are losing a meaningful connection with their children. Children are feeling lonely and alienated. The digital world is here to stay, but what are families losing with technology's gain?

As renowned clinical psychologist Catherine Steiner-Adair explains, families are in crisis around this issue, and even more so than they realize. Not only do chronic tech distractions have deep and lasting effects, but children desperately need parents to provide what tech cannot: close, significant interactions with the adults in their lives. Drawing on real-life stories from her clinical work with children and parents, and her consulting work with educators and experts across the country, Steiner-Adair offers insights and advice that can help parents achieve greater under-standing, authority, and confidence as they come up against the tech revolution unfolding in their living rooms.

We all know that deep connection with the people we love means everything to us. It's time to look with fresh eyes and an open mind at the disconnection we are experiencing from our extreme device dependence. It's never too late to put down the iPad and come to the dinner table.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780062082428
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date: 08/13/2013
Pages: 374
Product dimensions: 6.52(w) x 9.10(h) x 1.28(d)

About the Author

Catherine Steiner-Adair, EdD, is an internationally recognized clinical psychologist, school consultant, author, and speaker. She maintains a private practice in Massachusetts, is a clinical instructor in the Department of Psychiatry at Harvard Medical School and an associate psychologist at McLean Hospital, and speaks worldwide to numerous audiences, including educators, health professionals, PTAs, religious groups, corporations, and nonprofit organizations.

Table of Contents

Introduction: The Revolution in the Living Room 1

Chapter 1 Lost in Connection: How the Tech Effect Puts Children's Development at Risk 33

Chapter 2 The Brilliant Baby Brain: No Apps or Upgrades Needed 66

Chapter 3 Mary Had a Little iPad: The Wisdom of Tradition, the Wonder of Tech: Ages Three to Five 99

Chapter 4 Fast-Forward Childhood: When to Push Pause, Delete, and Play: Ages Six to Ten 129

Chapter 5 Going, Going, Gone: Tweens, Screens, and the Perils of Independence: Ages Eleven to Thirteen 162

Chapter 6 Teens, Tech, Temptation, and Trouble: Acting Out on the Big (and Little) Screen 193

Chapter 7 Scary, Crazy, and Clueless: Teens Talk about How to Be a Go-To Parent in the Digital Age 226

Chapter 8 The Sustainable Family: Turning Tech into an Ally for Closeness, Creativity, and Community 260

Acknowledgments 297

Notes 305

Bibliography 335

Index 361

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peakbagger06 More than 1 year ago
Well researched book that every parent, grandparent, caregiver, librarian, educator, psychologist should read. Talk to your child, read to your child, bring him/her to the playground, use blocks, ride on toys etc. Disconnect yourself from tech toys and be present for your children. Research shows stunted language development and lack of preparation for reading being some of the effects of putting kids in front of the myriad tech products out there.The Steiner-Adair has written a ground-breaking book.