Table of Contents
Acknowledgments ix
Introduction 1
1 Into the Unknown 4
2 Divorce isn't Easy, But it's Doable 7
3 Physical Well-Being 10
4 Reaching for the Sun 12
5 Restraint of Tongue and Pen 15
6 Sharing Your Pain 18
7 Stages of Grief 21
8 Denial 24
9 Anger 26
10 Bargaining 29
11 Depression 32
12 Acceptance 35
13 Roller-Coaster Ride 38
14 Embracing Pain 40
15 Courage 43
16 Character 46
17 A Better Divorce 49
18 Your Own Pace 52
19 Don't Believe Everything You Think 55
20 Challenges and Gifts 58
21 Showing Up 61
22 Making Promises 64
23 Nothing Extra 67
24 If Only 70
25 What Will People Think? 73
26 Deep Pain 75
27 Tears 78
28 Expectations 81
29 Patience 84
30 Disposition 87
31 Limited Visibility 90
32 The Enemy Inside 93
33 Divorce Through Different Lenses 96
34 The Vulnerability of Intimacy 101
35 Fear and Ambivalence 104
36 The Art of Being Assertive 107
37 Priorities 110
38 Getting Quiet 113
39 Perception 116
40 Resistance to Change 118
41 True Friends 121
42 Being Stretched 124
43 Dark Days 127
44 Security 130
45 Planting Seeds 133
46 An Unresolved Heart 136
47 Building Community 138
48 Feeling Hatred 141
49 Perspective 144
50 You are Loved 147
51 The New Normal 150
52 Solutions and Problems 153
53 Letting Go of Your Story in Order to Heal 156
54 Try Something New 159
55 Your Life After Divorce 162
56 Faith 165
57 Becoming More Conscious 168
58 Moving Through Your Anger 171
59 Setting Goals 175
60 Life as it is, Not as you Would Have it be 179
61 Blessing Your Spouse 183
