Based on the self-help classic, Stop Walking on Eggshells, this essential guide offers powerful skills and strategies for parenting a child of any age with borderline personality disorder (BPD)—without sacrificing their family or themselves.
If you have a child with BPD, you are all-too-aware of the behavioral and emotional issues that are linked to this disorder—including rages, self-harm, sexual acting out, substance abuse, suicidal behaviors, physical and emotional attacks, and more. Traditional parenting strategies that work on other kids just don’t work with a borderline child. But you shouldn’t lose hope. The good news is that there are parenting strategies that do work.
With this comprehensive resource, you will learn all about borderline personality disorder, how it shows up in children, adolescents, and your adult children, how to obtain proper treatment, and how to manage your child’s condition at home. You’ll find proven-effective strategies to help you communicate and improve your relationship with your child of any age, and, as a result, improve your own life as a parent and an individual. You’ll also find real stories and advice from parents who have also experienced raising a child with BPD.
Most importantly, you’ll learn how to maintain boundaries and validate your child while also meeting your own needs. Whether your child is 5 or 25, this book offers tools to help you and your family thrive.
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About the Author
Christine Adamec, MBA, is a self-help author whose books include When Your Adult Child Breaks Your Heart and The Grandfamily Guidebook. She has authored and coauthored forty books, and is a member of the American Society of Journalists and Authors.
Daniel S. Lobel, PhD, practices clinical psychology in Katonah, NY. He is author of two books: When Your Daughter Has BPD and When Your Mother Has Borderline Personality Disorder, and numerous blogs on Psychology Today. He has taught at Mount Sinai School of Medicine, State University of New York, Hofstra School of Law, and lectures with the National Alliance of the Mentally Ill (NAMI).
Fran L. Porter, BEd, MA, is author of When the Ship Has No Stabilizers, a memoir about her daughter, who has BPD.
Table of Contents
Chapter 1 An Introduction to Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) 1
Chapter 2 How BPD Affects Your Child 17
Chapter 3 Psychiatric Problems That Commonly Co-Occur with BPD 29
Chapter 4 Types of Treatment and Finding Treatment 43
Chapter 5 Improving Your Mental Health 61
Chapter 6 How BPD Impacts the Whole Family 79
Chapter 7 Life-Changing Communication Techniques 95
Chapter 8 BPD-Savvy Parenting Techniques Part 1 Avoiding Enabling and Handling Fear, Obligation, and Guilt 119
Chapter 9 BPD-Savvy Parenting Techniques Part 2 Limit Setting and Problem Solving 135
Chapter 10 Parenting a Preteen with BPD 151
Chapter 11 Parenting an Adolescent with BPD 165
Chapter 12 Parenting an Adult Child with BPD 179
Chapter 13 Parenting a Child Who Self-Harms or Is Suicidal 195
Chapter 14 Parenting a Child with Extreme Behaviors 209
Appendix A Top Ten Tips for Dads 225
Appendix B Clinician to Clinician: The Underdiagnosis of BPD in Children 233
Appendix C Resources 237
Kreger resides in Wauwatosa, WI; Adamec resides in Sacramento, CA; Lobel resides in Katonah, NY.