Relationship Rescue: A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting with Your Partner

Relationship Rescue: A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting with Your Partner

by Phillip C. McGraw PhD

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Overview

As a follow-up to his bestselling book Life Strategies, Oprah acolyte Phillip C. McGraw, Ph.D., moves from aiding the aimless individual to coaching the disconnected couple. McGraw has distilled his more than two decades of counseling experience into a seven-step strategy he calls "Relationship Rescue."

"I'm prepared to kick a hole in the wall of the pain-ridden, unhappy maze you've gotten yourself into, and provide you clear access to action-oriented answers and instructions on what you must do to have what you want," says Dr. Phil. His aim is to expose and eliminate the saboteurs that cause senseless damage to already-fragile marriages, and, like an emotional root canal, to replace them with values he says provide positive results. If you follow Dr. Phil's strategy, he will lead you on a precise journey to uncover your heart and then share it with your partner as part of taking the "risk of intimacy."

Dr. Phil leads you to "reconnect with your core" in the first five steps of his seven-step strategy. By no means a quick fix, there are in-depth and rigorous questionnaires, surveys, tests, and profiles that require a "brutally candid" mindset, with such fill-in-the-blanks as "List five things that today would make you fall out of love with your partner." With this internal work accomplished, you'll then move on to reconnecting with your partner during a two-week, half-hour-a-day short course. As a "dyad," you and your loved one take turns giving monologues on topics such as "The most positive thing I took away from my mother and father's relationship was..."

Once the "reconnection" has been established, Dr. Phil says the work shifts to a management role, as relationships are always a work in progress. Dr. Phil humorously refers to his own marriage throughout the book, sharing his mishaps and victories in learning to accept and enjoy what he sees as fundamental but complementary differences between men and women. --John Youngs

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780786871124
Publisher: Hachette Books
Publication date: 09/01/2001
Sold by: Hachette Digital, Inc.
Format: NOOK Book
Pages: 272
Sales rank: 204,060
File size: 2 MB
Age Range: 13 - 18 Years

About the Author

Dr. Phil McGraw is the author of five #1 New York Times bestsellers: Life Strategies: Doing What Works, Doing What Matters; Relationship Rescue: A Seven-Step Strategy for Reconnecting with Your Partner; Self Matters: Creating Your Life From the Inside Out; The Ultimate Weight Solution: The Seven Keys to Weight Loss Freedom, and his most recent book, Family First: Your Step-by-Step Plan for Creating a Phenomenal Family. He is also the author of the New York Times bestseller The Ultimate Weight Solution Coookbook: Recipes for Weight Loss Freedom as well as The Ultimate Weight Solution Food Guide. His books have been published in 37 languages with over 22 million copies in print. Dr. Phil has a B.S, M.A. and Ph.D. in clinical psychology from North Texas State University with a dual area of emphasis in clinical and behavioral medicine. He has been a board-certified and licensed clinical psychologist since 1978, and appears on his nationally syndicated daily one-hour series, Dr. Phil. He lives in Los Angeles with Robin, his wife of 28 years, and their two sons, Jay and Jordan.

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Relationship Rescue 4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 54 reviews.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Relationship Rescue is my pick as the top book of 2000. This book deserves many more than five stars. It is as close as you can get to having a hands-on guide to improving your relationships as you can get without having a trained counselor present. It's too bad that most people will take on this book because they have a bad or failing relationship. It would be much better to start with this approach in the beginning. I hope marriage advisors, parents, living together couples, and engaged people will become familiar with this book and recommend it to others. The book is extremely direct. The author makes it clear that you have to first change yourself before you can change you relationship. The book is extremely well structured for easy use both as a book and as a workbook. It is divided into seven steps (define and diagnose where the relationship is now; get rid of your wrong thinking about relationships; find out what you are doing to hurt the relationships; internalize the values needed to build and maintain strong relationships; the necessary format for a strong relationship; and how to reconnect and manage the relationship). Each section is filled with diagnostic questions for you and your partner to use, as well as directions for implementing what you learn. The process involved is a good one. It begins with identifying stalled thinking, works on stallbusting that thinking, and then builds new habits that will work better. The steps are extensive, but you can take them in bite-sized amounts. Before you are done, you will be sharing what you have done with your partner. I have to believe that anyone who was told that their partner had been working on these questions and exercises would be very impressed by the commitment to the relationship that this effort represented. It can help overcome a lot of thoughtlessness that may have preceded that sharing. If your relationship is on the rocks, that idea of reconnecting can be scary. I was impressed to see that the book provides a 14 day program to help you with exercises that help reconnect you emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. Most counselors would probably not give you this much guidance. You can improve the benefits you will find here by also using the excellent workbook that is sold separately. It contains many more questions and a convenient place to write them down. You can read my review of that as well, if you like. One of the finest things in life is to have a great relationship with other people. This book gives you the necessary background to move in that direction. The rest is up to you, as the author says. Give it a shot! You have a great quality of life to win! Donald Mitchell, co-author of The Irresistible Growth Enterprise and The 2,000 Percent Solution
Guest More than 1 year ago
I gave this book a try. But, like so many books on relationships, this book with its 'ten relationship values' is oversimplified. Once my husband (17 years) fell madly in love with someone at work, no book would have salvaged the situation. I am not playing victim or showing 'learned helplessness'. My ex husband had decided to leave us, period, whether I read some book or not. In summary I feel McGraw is way too optimistic believing that every relationship can be salvaged. Rather than 'Relationship Rescue', the book should be titled 'Relationship Values' and given to new couples, so that you build a strong relationship in the first place. Dr Phil refers to his grandparents' 55 year marriage and that's heartwarming, but it just isn't possible for everyone.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Practical, common-sense advice, engagingly written. This is one of a handful of books that I think can change anyone's life for the better. This one is easier reading than the others, but not particularly lightweight like so many out there that you can't suggest it to 'smart' friends who can benefit from it.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Dr. Phil is up front and straight out. No small talk. He gets straingt to the point and has excellent teqniques for rejuvinating anybody's relationship.
Guest More than 1 year ago
I was having a world of problems in my marriage and I did not know where to look. After being inspired by some of the things Dr. Phil says on TV, I decided to read this book. Boy am I glad I did! Dr. Phil has this ability to take it right to you and this is what I needed at the time. His words punched right through my walls of denial and forced me to make a real objective re-evaluation of myself and my relationship. It did wonders for me. After having this rejuvenating experience, I decided to explore and learn more about relationships and personal development. I have now found a more advanced book on relationships and personal development that is absolutely excellent! It is called 'The Ever-Transcending Spirit' by Toru Sato. It is more theoretical but an excellent read if you are one of those people who 'gets it!' It has taken me one step closer to inner peace and happiness.
Guest More than 1 year ago
He tells it like it is and pulls no punches. Read this book only if you can handle the truth.
Guest More than 1 year ago
Rescuing dying relationships takes hard work, and MacGraw offers A WHOLE NEW WAY of looking at problem-solving. If you feel you've tried the usual way of solving marital discord and it hasn't worked, look into this book. It MAY be just what you need to save your relationship. Also, it offers great insight into how to keep your relationship tuned and in good condition. I say - go for it!
LTW on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
The book is extremely direct. The author makes it clear that you have to first change yourself before you can change you relationship.The book is extremely well structured for easy use both as a book and as a workbook. It is divided into seven steps (define and diagnose where the relationship is now; get rid of your wrong thinking about relationships; find out what you are doing to hurt the relationships; internalize the values needed to build and maintain strong relationships; the necessary format for a strong relationship; and how to reconnect and manage the relationship).Each section is filled with diagnostic questions for you and your partner to use, as well as directions for implementing what you learn.
wyvernfriend on LibraryThing More than 1 year ago
brings up some interesting points about living as a couple that ring quite true, good stuff to think about.
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Real useful information with concrete action steps.
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