From the author of the bestselling The Modern Girl's Guide to Life comes a must-have book for the young mom, including best-kept secrets, practical advice, and multiple solutions for problems from birth to age four
Just when you thought you could cook (hey, one meal counts), clean (if the queen was coming), and seduce a man (well, long enough to get married), life throws you a curveball that makes all of your previous ineptitudes in life pale in comparison. With the appearance of one little extra line on a pregnancy test, you're thrown into a world of covering up leaks on shirts and taking a pacifier away from a two-year-old who has the grip of a pit bull.
In this funny, smart, and honest book, Jane Buckingham cuts through the clutter to give you simple information and practical advice for navigating the different stages of motherhood. From how to get your child to sleep and how to wean, to how to get him off the pacifier and how to stop his tantrums, this book will help moms feel in the know and in control! Some of Buckingham's favorite tips:
- If your baby has a hard time feeding because of a stuffy nose, turn on the shower to steam up the bathroom and feed her there.
- Put your children's paints in an empty egg carton it's the perfect size, and there's no mess to clean up when you're done. Use an old raincoat with the arms cut off as a smock.
- You should buy a new car seat, rather than borrowing a friend's old car seat, as there are constant safety upgrades. Also, be sure you are the person registered to that car seat (send in that registration card!) so that you'll be notified in case of a recall.
- Keep the three-day rule in mind: Almost any bad habit can be broken in three days. Granted, they may be tough, torturous days, but you can do it!
The Modern Girl's Guide to Motherhood helps modern moms do it all with love, style, and flair!
About the Author
Jane Buckingham is the president of Trendera, an innovative marketing and media consulting firm with numerous Fortune 500 companies as clients. She is a contributing editor to Cosmopolitan, a regular guest on Good Morning America and The View, and was recently named by Elle as one of the 25 Most Powerful Women in Hollywood. She lives in Los Angeles with her husband, bestselling business author Marcus Buckingham, and their two children, Jack and Lilia.
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The Modern Girl's Guide to Motherhood
By Jane Buckingham
HarperCollins Publishers, Inc.Copyright ©2006 Jane Buckingham
All right reserved.
The Mother of All Shopping Sprees
Face it, half the reason you got pregnant was the too-cute comforters and the to-die-for diaper cozies you saw at your girlfriend's house and needed a reason to buy. Okay, maybe it's not half the reason, but decorating a whole new room in supercute baby stuff can make a bad meeting with the doctor's scale a little better. The problem is that some of the cutest stuff out there is the least practical (and the most expensive). I had sterilizers, warmers, things that bounced, things that vibrated, and every gadget available. If someone had told me that buying the Brooklyn Bridge might help me get a baby who slept better, I would probably have handed over a check. I wasted a lot of money and time on unnecessary stuff.
The reality is there are things you need to have, things that are nice to have, and those that are not necessary. And chances are, if you are reading this book in chronological order, you've already stocked up on quite a bit. I can't blame you; I clearly didn't resist the urge either. But the truth is, you don't need to buy up the store before the baby comes. Many things you won't use for several months and you can swap out if space is tight. Nowwhile I've sorted the list into three, you may feel differently about some items. That's your choice; I'm a modern mom, not your mom. So I've included thoughts on just about everything (other than feeding-related products, which you'll find in chapter 4).
Now before you run out to buy everything, you should figure out where you will be keeping the baby and when. Someone once told me (as I stressed about where we would put a baby in our cramped apartment) that for the first few months a baby could easily sleep in a dresser drawer. Yes, and women have babies in fields and go right back to work, but that isn't my scene either. But the truth is that until your baby is crawling around, she doesn't need the space as much as you do. You may even find it more convenient to have the baby in your room for the first few months in a bassinet or (as I preferred) a cosleeper, and discover you barely use the nursery for several months. But assuming you are going to have a separate room or space, here are a few things to keep in mind.
Make sure the room is well ventilated, with windows and a ceiling fan or air conditioning for the summer, and good insulation and heat for the winter. While my son's room was perfect most of the time, it was an icebox in the winter. We had to move his crib, get insulation, and basically have him spend his first winter sleeping in a snowsuit.
You'll be spending a lot of time going back and forth to this room in the beginning, so it is helpful if it is near to your room, preferably on the same floor. Climbing the stairs -- while a great way to get back in shape -- isn't much fun bleary-eyed at 4 A.M.
Invest in a nice, glowing night-light. You can use it to maneuver in the middle of the night while not taking your baby out of "nighttime" mode by switching on overhead lights (and here you thought a night-light was for the baby).
Go with fabrics that are washable. You won't believe how much laundry you'll be doing. If it's dry clean only, regift it to your biggest enemy.
Avoid hanging anything above your baby's crib that could fall and hurt him, such as picture frames, a shelf with knickknacks, or large pictures. Instead, paint a mural or hang something soft, like a quilt.
To save money on wallpaper, paint instead, and then add a wallpaper border to the top of the wall.
Have someone else paint well in advance of the baby's arriving. You should avoid the fumes when you're pregnant, and the smell can linger for up to five days, so this is not the activity for the night before the baby arrives.
Avoid too much stimulation in the contents of the crib, as it could affect his sleep. Instead, opt for it in other areas. My son loved to stare at the striped curtains above his changing table. This made changes much easier in the first six months.
If you don't want to go with a traditional nursery theme, consider:
Blowing up photos of your family and framing them in inexpensive frames. It's a cheap way to cover the walls and make the room immediately feel like home.
Opt for an astrological theme based on your child's birthday or the solar system.
Cover one wall with corkboard (which can be painted so you don't have to leave it brown) and then attach mementos on the wall -- clippings of hair from a first cut, fun family pictures, and postcards.
Paint the wall with giant number and alphabet stencils.
Use chalk paint on one wall and let your child doodle with chalk when she's old enough.
Create a family tree with natural materials such as leaves and branches.
Use a travel theme based on places that are important to your family, or post a giant map with pins pointing out where certain family members have visited.
Paint a mural with favorite children's book characters.
Cribs, Beds, and Planning Ahead
We tortured ourselves over which crib to buy for our son's room. For some reason we got stuck on the notion that this had to be a functional bed that would last him for years, so we ended up buying the crib that converted into a toddler bed, and then eventually becomes the head and footboard to a twin bed. In reality, we passed the crib to my daughter and bought my son a different bed when he outgrew the crib anyway. . . .
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Table of Contents
|1||The Mother of All Shopping Sprees||5|
|Gear Guide: What You Need, What You Don't|
|Cribs, Beds, and Planning Ahead|
|Linens and Things|
|Moses Baskets, Cosleepers and Basinettes|
|Changing Table Basics|
|Changing Table Essentials|
|Other Nursery Essentials|
|Beyond the Bedroom||20|
|Infant Seats and Swings|
|Heading Out the Door||25|
|Packing It In: Diaper Bag|
|The Home Medicine Cabinet||33|
|Creating a Layette||35|
|Washing Your Baby's Clothes|
|The Modern Mom's Guide to Stain Removal|
|2||Experts, Epidurals, and Everything Else Before Baby||43|
|Choosing a Pediatrician||44|
|Bracing for Delivery Day||45|
|Some Great Books on Labor and Delivery|
|Birthing Methods and Ways to Ease the Pain|
|While You Still Have Some Time on Your Hands||50|
|Writing a Will|
|Appointing a Legal Guardian|
|A Living Trust|
|Dollars and Sense: Planning for Your Child's Financial Future|
|Compiling a Call List|
|Packing for the Hospital|
|Eight Unpleasant Things You Need to Know About||63|
|Pooing on the Table|
|Tears and Episiotomies|
|Peeing and Pooing Post Pushing|
|Pain Pain Pain!#@%#$*^%!!!!!|
|Bizarre Side Effects|
|Deciding About Cord Blood Banking||71|
|Help Is on the Way!||74|
|Choosing a Nanny|
|Choosing Day Care|
|3||The Babymoon: The First Few Weeks Home from the Hospital||78|
|Introducing Your Bundle of Joy (and Screams)||79|
|Dealing with Wanted (and Unwanted) Visitors||84|
|Drop-by Visitors: At the Hospital and at Home|
|Friends with Toddlers|
|Reality Check: Everything Has Changed, but Your Life Will Come Back||90|
|4||Food for Thought (And Little Tummies)||92|
|Your New Bosom Buddy||93|
|Advantages of Breast-feeding|
|How Long Should You Breast-feed?|
|Latching and Learning the Ropes|
|Feeding on Demand|
|Your Baby Is What You Eat|
|Ouch! Sore Nipples|
|Hitting the Bottle||104|
|Choosing a Formula|
|Bottle Do's and Don'ts|
|Burping, Colic, and Crying||107|
|Burping Your Baby|
|Everybody Stay Calm! Making the Most of Pacifiers||111|
|Introducing Solid Foods||113|
|Six to Ten Months|
|Foods to Avoid|
|Gas in Children|
|Making Your Own Food|
|Drinks and Things|
|Ten to Twelve Months|
|One Year and Beyond||123|
|Healthy Eating Habits|
|Treats and Desserts|
|Dealing with a Fussy Eater|
|Healthful Snack Alternatives to Sweets|
|Family Dinners: You Mean Carryout Doesn't Count?||129|
|Dining Out with Kids in Tow||131|
|5||Wake Up! We Need to Talk About Sleep||134|
|Birth to Three Months: From A to Zzz's||136|
|What If He Screams?|
|Getting on a Schedule|
|If All Else Fails|
|SIDS and Flat Heads|
|Three to Nine Months: Sleep Is on the Way||145|
|Nine to Twelve Months: Too Good to Be True||148|
|One-Year-Old Sleep Patterns||149|
|Big Boy/Girl Beds||151|
|Staying Until They Sleep|
|Terrible Twos at Night||153|
|The Party's Over|
|What the Experts Say||156|
|6||Baby Care 101 (Because Dressing Them in Cute Outfits Isn't Enough)||160|
|Best Bath Time|
|Switching to a Big Tub|
|Little Kid Bath Activities|
|If Your Child Is Terrified of the Bath|
|Caring for Those Other 1001 Small Parts||166|
|Reliving Teething Pain|
|That Doesn't Look/Feel/Sound Right!||174|
|Get Help STAT!|
|Get Help When It's Practical|
|Bumps and Bruises|
|What the Heck Are All These Shots For?|
|Vaccinations Month by Month|
|Preparing Your Child for Shots|
|What to Expect Developmentally and When|
|7||Teach Your Children Well ... Or Else It's Hell||206|
|Hi. My Name Is Mommy, and You Are ...?||207|
|Birth to Fifteen Months|
|Fifteen to Twenty-one Months|
|Twenty-two to Twenty-seven Months|
|Twenty-eight to Thirty-six Months||207|
|Communicating with Your Child||210|
|Saying "Yes" Instead of "No"|
|Teaching That Actions Have Consequences|
|Disciplining Your Child's Friends|
|Other People Disciplining Your Child|
|Praise When Praise Is Due||214|
|The Bad and the Ugly: Dealing With ...||219|
|"I Don't Like You"|
|Mind Your Manners||225|
|Saying You're Sorry|
|Please and Thank You|
|Hello and Goodbye|
|Nose Picking, Farting, and Burping||225|
|Dealing with the Hard Stuff||232|
|Ask the Experts||235|
|The RIE Method|
|The Happiest Toddler on the Block|
|Books by Louise Bates Ames|
|The What to Expect ... Series||235|
|8||Breaking Up* Is Hard to Do (*With Old Habits, That Is)||241|
|Breaking Old Habits||241|
|The Mommy Store Is Closed|
|Pitching the Pacifier|
|Security Blankets and Other Comfort Items||241|
|Have a Seat: The Fine Art of Potty Training||254|
|Are We There Yet? Signs Your Child Might Be Ready|
|Ready, Aim, Pee|
|9||The Play Dating Game and Beyond||261|
|Best Toys and Activities at Any Age||262|
|Birth to Three Months|
|Four to Twelve Months|
|Twelve to Eighteen Months|
|Eighteen to Twenty-four Months|
|Twenty-four to Thirty-six Months|
|To TV or Not TV||262|
|Play: Is It All It's Cracked Up to Be?||275|
|Picking the Right Playgroup and Classes|
|Play Date Ideas|
|Nannies Versus Mommies||275|
|Some Fun Party Activities|
|Picking a Preschool||289|
|Getting Your Child Ready for Preschool||289|
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Life as a young mother is hard. This book can help those young mothers
I bought this book for my sister when she became pregnant and I think it was a perfect gift. The advice given is practical, down to earth and entertaining. I especially like the surprisingly short and simple lists for stocking a diaper bag and what to take to the hospital. No overflowing diaper bags here!
I love this book. I give it to all my friends and family members who are having their first baby. It is a very useful and practical book for modern moms to be.