Mary Brave Bird grew up fatherless in a one-room cabin, without running water or electricity, on the Rosebud Indian Reservation in South Dakota. Rebelling against the aimless drinking, punishing missionary school, narrow strictures for women, and violence and hopeless of reservation life, she joined the new movement of tribal pride sweeping Native American communities in the sixties and seventies. Mary eventually married Leonard Crow Dog, the American Indian Movement's chief medicine man, who revived the sacred but outlawed Ghost Dance.
Originally published in 1990, Lakota Woman was a national best seller and winner of the American Book Award. It is a unique document, unparalleled in American Indian literature, a story of death, of determination against all odds, of the cruelties perpetuated against American Indians, and of the Native American struggle for rights. Working with Richard Erdoes, one of the twentieth century's leading writers on Native American affairs, Brave Bird recounts her difficult upbringing and the path of her fascinating life.
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Mary Brave Bird grew up fatherless in a one-room cabin, without running water or electricity on a South Dakota reservation. Rebelling against the aimless drinking, punishing missionary school, narrow strictures for women, and violence and hopelessness of reservation life, she joined the new movement of tribal pride sweeping Native American communities in the sixties and seventies and eventually married Leonard Crow Dog, the movement's chief medicine man, who revived the sacred but outlawed Ghost Dance.
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A Woman from He-Dog
A nation is not conquered until the hearts of its women are on the ground.
Then it is done, no matter how brave its warriors nor how strong their weapons.
— Cheyenne proverb
I am Mary Brave Bird. After I had my baby during the siege of Wounded Knee they gave me a special name — Ohitika Win, Brave Woman, and fastened an eagle plume in my hair, singing brave-heart songs for me. I am a woman of the Red Nation, a Sioux woman. That is not easy.
I had my first baby during a firefight, with the bullets crashing through one wall and coming out through the other. When my newborn son was only a day old and the marshals really opened up upon us, I wrapped him up in a blanket and ran for it. We had to hit the dirt a couple of times, I shielding the baby with my body, praying, "It's all right if I die, but please let him live."
When I came out of Wounded Knee I was not even healed up, but they put me in jail at Pine Ridge and took my baby away. I could not nurse. My breasts swelled up and grew hard as rocks, hurting badly. In 1975 the feds put the muzzles of their M-16s against my head, threatening to blow me away. It's hard being an Indian woman.
My best friend was Annie Mae Aquash, a young, strong-hearted woman from the Micmac Tribe with beautiful children. It is not always wise for an Indian woman to come on too strong. Annie Mae was found dead in the snow at the bottom of a ravine on the Pine Ridge Reservation. The police said that she had died of exposure, but there was a .38-caliber slug in her head. The FBI cut off her hands and sent them to Washington for fingerprint identification, hands that had helped my baby come into the world.
My sister-in-law, Delphine, a good woman who had lived a hard life, was also found dead in the snow, the tears frozen on her face. A drunken man had beaten her, breaking one of her arms and legs, leaving her helpless in a blizzard to die.
My sister Barbara went to the government hospital in Rosebud to have her baby and when she came out of anesthesia found that she had been sterilized against her will. The baby lived only for two hours, and she had wanted so much to have children. No, it isn't easy.
When I was a small girl at the St. Francis Boarding School, the Catholic sisters would take a buggy whip to us for what they called "disobedience." At age ten I could drink and hold a pint of whiskey. At age twelve the nuns beat me for "being too free with my body." All I had been doing was holding hands with a boy. At age fifteen I was raped. If you plan to be born, make sure you are born white and male.
It is not the big, dramatic things so much that get us down, but just being Indian, trying to hang on to our way of life, language, and values while being surrounded by an alien, more powerful culture. It is being an iyeska, a half-blood, being looked down upon by whites and full-bloods alike. It is being a backwoods girl living in a city, having to rip off stores in order to survive. Most of all it is being a woman. Among Plains tribes, some men think that all a woman is good for is to crawl into the sack with them and mind the children. It compensates for what white society has done to them. They were famous warriors and hunters once, but the buffalo is gone and there is not much rep in putting a can of spam or an occasional rabbit on the table.
As for being warriors, the only way some men can count coup nowadays is knocking out another skin's teeth during a barroom fight. In the old days a man made a name for himself by being generous and wise, but now he has nothing to be generous with, no jobs, no money; and as far as our traditional wisdom is concerned, our men are being told by the white missionaries, teachers, and employers that it is merely savage superstition they should get rid of if they want to make it in this world. Men are forced to live away from their children, so that the family can get ADC — Aid to Dependent Children. So some warriors come home drunk and beat up their old ladies in order to work off their frustration. I know where they are coming from. I feel sorry for them, but I feel even sorrier for their women.
To start from the beginning, I am a Sioux from the Rosebud Reservation in South Dakota. I belong to the "Burned Thigh," the Brule Tribe, the Sicangu in our language. Long ago, so the legend goes, a small band of Sioux was surrounded by enemies who set fire to their tipis and the grass around them. They fought their way out of the trap but got their legs burned and in this way acquired their name. The Brules are part of the Seven Sacred Campfires, the seven tribes of the Western Sioux known collectively as Lakota. The Eastern Sioux are called Dakota. The difference between them is their language. It is the same except that where we Lakota pronounce an L, the Dakota pronounce a D. They cannot pronounce an L at all. In our tribe we have this joke: "What is a flat tire in Dakota?" Answer: "A bdowout."
The Brule, like all Sioux, were a horse people, fierce riders and raiders, great warriors. Between 1870 and 1880 all Sioux were driven into reservations, fenced in and forced to give up everything that had given meaning to their life — their horses, their hunting, their arms, everything. But under the long snows of despair the little spark of our ancient beliefs and pride kept glowing, just barely sometimes, waiting for a warm wind to blow that spark into a flame again.
My family was settled on the reservation in a small place called HeDog, after a famous chief. There are still some He-Dogs living. One, an old lady I knew, lived to be over a hundred years old. Nobody knew when she had been born. She herself had no idea, except that when she came into the world there was no census yet, and Indians had not yet been given Christian first names. Her name was just He-Dog, nothing else. She always told me, "You should have seen me eighty years ago when I was pretty." I have never forgotten her face — nothing but deep cracks and gullies, but beautiful in its own way. At any rate very impressive.
On the Indian side my family was related to the Brave Birds and Fool Bulls. Old Grandpa Fool Bull was the last man to make flutes and play them, the old-style flutes in the shape of a bird's head which had the elk power, the power to lure a young girl into a man's blanket. Fool Bull lived a whole long century, dying in 1976, whittling his flutes almost until his last day. He took me to my first peyote meeting while I was still a kid.
He still remembered the first Wounded Knee, the massacre. He was a young boy at that time, traveling with his father, a well-known medicine man. They had gone to a place near Wounded Knee to take part in a Ghost Dance. They had on their painted ghost shirts which were supposed to make them bulletproof. When they got near Pine Ridge they were stopped by white soldiers, some of them from the Seventh Cavalry, George Custer's old regiment, who were hoping to kill themselves some Indians. The Fool Bull band had to give up their few old muzzle-loaders, bows, arrows, and even knives. They had to put up their tipis in a tight circle, all bunched up, with the wagons on the outside and the soldiers surrounding their camp, watching them closely. It was cold, so cold that the trees were crackling with a loud noise as the frost was splitting their trunks. The people made a fire the following morning to warm themselves and make some coffee and then they noticed a sound beyond the crackling of the trees: rifle fire, salvos making a noise like the ripping apart of a giant blanket; the boom of cannon and the rattling of quick-firing Hotchkiss guns. Fool Bull remembered the grown-ups bursting into tears, the women keening: "They are killing our people, they are butchering them!" It was only two miles or so from where Grandfather Fool Bull stood that almost three hundred Sioux men, women, and children were slaughtered. Later grandpa saw the bodies of the slain, all frozen in ghostly attitudes, thrown into a ditch like dogs. And he saw a tiny baby sucking at his dead mother's breast.
I wish I could tell about the big deeds of some ancestors of mine who fought at the Little Big Horn, or the Rosebud, counting coup during the Grattan or Fetterman battle, but little is known of my family's history before 1880. I hope some of my great-grandfathers counted coup on Custer's men, I like to imagine it, but I just do not know. Our Rosebud people did not play a big part in the battles against generals Crook or Custer. This was due to the policy of Spotted Tail, the all-powerful chief at the time. Spotted Tail had earned his eagle feathers as a warrior, but had been taken East as a prisoner and put in jail. Coming back years later, he said that he had seen the cities of the whites and that a single one of them contained more people than could be found in all the Plains tribes put together, and that every one of the wasicuns' factories could turn out more rifles and bullets in one day than were owned by all the Indians in the country. It was useless, he said, to try to resist the wasicuns. During the critical year of 1876 he had his Indian police keep most of the young men on the reservation, preventing them from joining Sitting Bull, Gall, and Crazy Horse. Some of the young bucks, a few Brave Birds among them, managed to sneak out trying to get to Montana, but nothing much is known. After having been forced into reservations, it was not thought wise to recall such things. It might mean no rations, or worse. For the same reason many in my family turned Christian, letting themselves be "whitemanized." It took many years to reverse this process.
My sister Barbara, who is four years older than me, says she remembers the day when I was born. It was late at night and raining hard amid thunder and lightning. We had no electricity then, just the old-style kerosene lamps with the big reflectors. No bathroom, no tap water, no car. Only a few white teachers had cars. There was one phone in He-Dog, at the trading post. This was not so very long ago, come to think of it. Like most Sioux at that time my mother was supposed to give birth at home, I think, but something went wrong, I was pointing the wrong way, feet first or stuck sideways. My mother was in great pain, laboring for hours, until finally somebody ran to the trading post and called the ambulance. They took her — us — to Rosebud, but the hospital there was not yet equipped to handle a complicated birth, I don't think they had surgery then, so they had to drive mother all the way to Pine Ridge, some ninety miles distant, because there the tribal hospital was bigger. So it happened that I was born among Crazy Horse's people. After my sister Sandra was born the doctors there performed a hysterectomy on my mother, in fact sterilizing her without her permission, which was common at the time, and up to just a few years ago, so that it is hardly worth mentioning. In the opinion of some people, the fewer Indians there are, the better. As Colonel Chivington said to his soldiers: "Kill 'em all, big and small, nits make lice!"
I don't know whether I am a louse under the white man's skin. I hope I am. At any rate I survived the long hours of my mother's labor, the stormy drive to Pine Ridge, and the neglect of the doctors. I am an iyeska, a breed, that's what the white kids used to call me. When I grew bigger they stopped calling me that, because it would get them a bloody nose. I am a small woman, not much over five feet tall, but I can hold my own in a fight, and in a free-for-all with honkies I can become rather ornery and do real damage. I have white blood in me. Often I have wished to be able to purge it out of me. As a young girl I used to look at myself in the mirror, trying to find a clue as to who and what I was. My face is very Indian, and so are my eyes and my hair, but my skin is very light. Always I waited for the summer, for the prairie sun, the Badlands sun, to tan me and make me into a real skin.
The Crow Dogs, the members of my husband's family, have no such problems of identity. They don't need the sun to tan them, they are full-bloods — the Sioux of the Sioux. Some Crow Dog men have faces which make the portrait on the buffalo Indian nickel look like a washedout white man. They have no shortage of legends. Every Crow Dog seems to be a legend in himself, including the women. They became outcasts in their stronghold at Grass Mountain rather than being whitemanized. They could not be tamed, made to wear a necktie or go to a Christian church. All during the long years when practicing Indian beliefs was forbidden and could be punished with jail, they went right on having their ceremonies, their sweat baths and sacred dances. Whenever a Crow Dog got together with some relatives, such as those equally untamed, unregenerated Iron Shells, Good Lances, Two Strikes, Picket Pins, or Hollow Horn Bears, then you could hear the sound of the can gleska, the drum, telling all the world that a Sioux ceremony was in the making. It took courage and suffering to keep the flame alive, the little spark under the snow.
The first Crow Dog was a well-known chief. On his shield was the design of two circles and two arrowheads for wounds received in battle — two white man's bullets and two Pawnee arrow points. When this first Crow Dog was lying wounded in the snow, a coyote came to warm him and a crow flew ahead of him to show him the way home. His name should be Crow Coyote, but the white interpreter misunderstood it and so they became Crow Dogs. This Crow dog of old became famous for killing a rival chief, the result of a feud over tribal politics, then driving voluntarily over a hundred miles to get himself hanged at Deadwood, his wife sitting beside him in his buggy; famous also for finding on his arrival that the Supreme Court had ordered him to be freed because the federal government had no jurisdiction over Indian reservations and also because it was no crime for one Indian to kill another. Later, Crow Dog became a leader of the Ghost Dancers, holding out for months in the frozen caves and ravines of the Badlands. So, if my own family lacks history, that of my husband more than makes up for it.
Our land itself is a legend, especially the area around Grass Mountain where I am living now. The fight for our land is at the core of our existence, as it has been for the last two hundred years. Once the land is gone, then we are gone too. The Sioux used to keep winter counts, picture writings on buffalo skin, which told our people's story from year to year. Well, the whole country is one vast winter count. You can't walk a mile without coming to some family's sacred vision hill, to an ancient Sun Dance circle, an old battle-ground, a place where something worth remembering happened. Mostly a death, a proud death or a drunken death. We are a great people for dying. "It's a good day to die!" that's our old battle cry. But the land with its tar paper shacks and outdoor privies, not one of them straight, but all leaning this way or that way, is also a land to live on, a land for good times and telling jokes and talking of great deeds done in the past. But you can't live forever off the deeds of Sitting Bull or Crazy Horse. You can't wear their eagle feathers, freeload off their legends. You have to make your own legends now. It isn't easy.
The father says so — E'yayo! The father says so — E'yayo! You shall see your grandfather! You shall see your kindred — E'yayo! The father says so. A'te he'ye lo.
Child let me grasp your hand, Child let me grasp your hand. You shall live, You shall live! Says the father. A'te he'ye lo.
— Ghost Dance song
Our people have always been known for their strong family ties, for people within one family group caring for each other, for the "helpless ones," the old folks and especially the children, the coming generation. Even now, among traditionals, as long as one person eats, all other relatives eat too. Nobody saves up money because there is always some poor relative saying, "Kanji, I need five bucks for food and gas," and he will not be refused as long as there is one single dollar left. Feeding every comer is still a sacred duty, and Sioux women seem always to be cooking from early morning until late at night. Fourth and fifth cousins still claim relationship and the privileges that go with it. Free enterprise has no future on the res.
At the center of the old Sioux society was the tiyospaye, the extended family group, the basic hunting band, which included grandparents, uncles, aunts, in-laws, and cousins. The tiyospaye was like a warm womb cradling all within it. Kids were never alone, always fussed over by not one but several mothers, watched and taught by several fathers. The real father, as a matter of fact, selected a second father, some well-thought-of relative with special skills as a hunter or medicine man, to help him bring up a boy, and such a person was called "Father" too. And the same was true for the girls. Grandparents in our tribe always held a special place in caring for the little ones, because they had more time to devote to them, when the father was out hunting, taking the mother with him to help with the skinning and butchering.(Continues…)
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Table of Contents
1 A Woman from He-Dog,
2 Invisible Fathers,
3 Civilize Them with a Stick,
4 Drinking and Fighting,
6 We AIM Not to Please,
7 Crying for a Dream,
8 Cankpe Opi Wakpala,
9 The Siege,
10 The Ghosts Return,
11 Birth Giving,
12 Sioux and Elephants Never Forget,
13 Two Cut-off Hands,
14 Cante Ishta — The Eye of the Heart,
15 The Eagle Caged,
16 Ho Uway Tinkte — My Voice You Shall Hear,
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The plight of the South Dacota Sioux was a reminder of my own (white) middle class upbringing in the southern US, about 10 years earlier than this story takes place. Outhouses.....ours was once reached via a path through a turkey pen. I remember my mother wringing a chicken's neck before preparing it for our evening meal. She made my sister's and my grade school clothing, and worked many low paying jobes along with my dad who eventually found a good job with the Bureau of Reclamation and over the years we ended up in a nice home with all the aminities including the opportunity for higher education which in turn provided better pay and standard of living. There were many similarities in my upbringing the main difference being my chances for upward mobility were not hampered by prejudice by the white Christian majority as it still is today to a lesser degree. But times, they are changing. Although the majority of our nation now have the opportunity for a better life, there is still much work to be done to stamp out injustice done to the non-whites, poor, uneducated, handicaped, etc. I believe most Americans want those changes but real change takes time and sacrefice on everyone's part. Of particular interest to me was the American Indians varied and extremely different religious beliefs and lifestyles. I plan to look for more innformation to understand the the Sioux & other tribal beliefs. The goood news is that they finally started exploiting their own culture by the institution of gambling casinos throughout the US which has raised many tribe's standard of living significantly. Continuing to seek ways to better their own lives has helped them more than any government intervention.
Re-read 18 years later I met, Mary Crow Dog, in 1994, at her book signing, in Phoenix, Arizona. I was impressed that Mary took the time to not only sign my book, but she wrote a note and drew a picture. Richard Erdoes accompanied Mary, and he also signed his name under Mary’s. When I read Lakota Woman in 1994, I enjoyed what I learned about the Lakota Sioux Nation’s people, customs, and history. Re-reading the book in 2012, I read for a different purpose. I’m writing a historical novel, and need to validate any facts I might include in my book. Lakota Woman is just as fascinating a read in 1994 as it was today. Mary grew up as a Lakota Sioux on the Pine Ridge Indian Reservation in South Dakota. Much like today, Pine Ridge was poverty stricken. Mary described her life, but she included other American Indians in her book. She was raised in a one room shack, filled with many family members, with no amenities, much like camping. She described the daily life of Sioux women, and Sioux men, differentiating their roles. Ignorance was bliss for Mary, as she thought this was how everyone lived. She viewed her childhood as happy because she basically had love in her family. Domestic abuse was rampant in reservations, and there were dysfunctional families, as we call them today. Indian children were sent to boarding school to ‘become white’, to shed their Indian ways and customs. The students were beaten and punished if they didn’t succeed in the daily attempts to change their traditional values. Mary left and became a street smart Sioux, she drank and shoplifted to survive. As every teenager looked for something to be a part of, Mary joined the AIM (American Indian Movement). She was empathetic to her people and other Indian’s struggles and was hungry for knowledge. Mary shared the AIM events with her readers. Not all of it is pretty, by any means, but that is what is so fascinating. It’s a first-hand account of what American Indians suffered in the 1970’s. Mary had a baby during the siege at Wounded Knee. Here she met her husband, Leonard Crow Dog; he was a medicine man and a leader, and also had children of his own. She was a naïve wife and mother, but she learned how to do both well and stood by her husband during his imprisonment and adversities during these tumultuous times. The book includes sixteen photos that illustrate traditional customs, and put faces to names and places. Whether you read Lakota Woman to learn about the Lakota Sioux in general, or to obtain precise facts for your own research, it is the perfect book. It is written on a young adult level, so it’s an easy read that any age would enjoy. It’s always fun to learn history through reading a story such as Lakota Woman vs. a textbook.
Mary Crow Dog tells her story of a life enmeshed with the problems that American Indians have faced for years: poverty, alcoholism, mistreatment by the U. S. government. She was there at the siege of Wounded Knee in the 1970a and fought and struggled to help her people. Highly recommended.
The true story is a personal account of young native Indian girl, Mary, growing up in the 1960¿s and 1970¿s struggling to find her identity and the identity of her people. Rape, murder, and oppression were weaved in with her young life. It seemed to feed the bitterness of white people as a whole. Mary seemed so matter of fact about the deaths like it was tying a shoe, but then who cared. After time she gained pride through her participation in AIM, the 71 day seige at '1973 Wounded Knee', and regaining some of her own spirit. Written as a novice writer but it's Mary Crow Dog's memories. I liked it and feel people need to open there eyes.
The book took awhile to get into, but then I became invested. I had lived through this period and had very little memory of events. It made me feel ashamed. I am glad that I read it.
Lakota Woman is the autobiography of Mary Crow Dog. She is a Sioux Indian; also known as the Lakota. She didn't have much growing up on the reservation. She when to missionary school. The Sioux are a people that take care of each other as a group taking care of young and old. They do not save money or food like some. Sometimes that will honor the family ties up to the sixth generation, giving their last dollar. It is about the family community not the idividual. Mary was a loner though she was interested in perfume make-up or dresses, like some girls of the sixties and seventies. She was afraid of the white people and didn't really socialize with them. She married Leonard Crow Dog,a medicine man. Together they were part of a group to bring back the Sioux way of life including the Ghost dance.I enjoy Indian history and stories .I thought Crow Dog shared herself well.I would recommend this book to the Upper Grades.
A really engaging autobiography from a Native woman before, during and after the siege at Wounded Knee in 1971 (1972?). Frank words about inter-tribal rifts, racism from whites, alcoholism, the "justice" system, and sexism. Loved it!
Thanks for the clear view.
The book is filled with half truths. Today they would be referred to as urban terrorists. Anyone who has believed her story should do a quick search on the names in the book. It's a who's who on 70's terrorism.
The Lakota Woman offers a historically accurate account of the American Indian Movement during the late 1900s and the culture and oppression faced by Native Americans, specifically the Sioux tribe of the Dakotas. Although bias, it offers a different and important perspective on the long history of Native American and White conflict. It allows the reader to see things through the eyes of the victim, and illuminates a just reason for the writer¿s bias. My textbook The American Pageant did not delve deeply into the affect of Whites on Native American life and culture. Although there were a few things that the book talked about that were present in my textbook, such as the massacre at Wounded Knee and the affect on Indians during Andrew Jackson¿s presidency. My book also talked about the Trail of Tears and how during the Red movement the AIM Indians retraced the trail during their march to DC called the Trail of Broken Treatises. Lakota Woman offered me an entirely new understanding of the hardships faced by the Indians of the past and even the modern Indians. This book taught me of the Whites continued mission to ¿Whitemanize¿ the Indians and how racism was still strongly present among both Whites and Indians and often left to violent conflicts between the two. I learned a lot more about the obstacles which face modern Indians on their impoverished reservations, how alcoholism is a huge problem and often leads to death and domestic violence. I learned of the cruel punishments in White boarding schools and the sexual harassment aimed at young Indian girls. But the thing that shocked me most was that the Whites were the biggest contributors to the Indians problems and how there was violent racism in my own state. The book is told through the eyes of an iyeska or half breed, she talks about her struggle to become more Indians and how she hates the white in her and what it did to her people. She may seem bias in her accounts, but the book makes it understandable that the crimes committed against her and her people would create such perspectives. Richard Erdoes does an amazing job of telling Mary Crow Dog¿s story and maintaining her voice throughout the book. I can feel the pain in her voice when she tells of the wrongs committed against her and her people. How she is frequently harassed by white males and her people¿s men often get drunk and die in car crashes. I can see her hurt when she talks about the forced sterilization of her people¿s woman and the abuse faced in the boarding schools. This book is sure to leave people with a higher understanding of the plight of Native Americans and an admiration for their resilience and unity. I would definitely recommend this book to one of my friends, we barely learn anything about how the Native American¿s felt about the invasion of their homeland and this book gives a passionate account of the problems the modern Indians face today. It is important for American¿s to understand everything about our nations past, even the bad things, so that we can work towards a more tolerant future. I¿d have to rate this book a 4! Out of 5, even without a formal education Mary Crow Dog is able to offer a clear and understandable account of her life and her people¿s history. Even though it¿s non-fiction it is extremely interesting and don¿t be surprised if you find yourself staying up late at night to read another chapter and find out more about our countries Native people.
I thought I knew about Peltier, but I'd only heard the white media account of why he had been locked up. Lakota Woman tells the other side of the story. The book is compelling and disarmingly introspective. Mary Crow dog not only tells the story of Wounded Knee; she also examines her own behavior, belief system, cultural identity, and the consequences of her actions.
Mary Crow Dog show the readers all the things that were going on through out her life. This is a book that every one needs to read.
I loved that book! It talked about what the A.I.M. did to represent the people. Mary Crow Dog is the best and I would recommend this book to anyone that wants to know what went down in South Dakota.
This was the absolute worst book I've read in a long time. I couldn't even finish it. All she does is whine and feel sorry for herself throughout the whole story. Poor, poor pitiful me tone that drove me nuts.