How You Say It: Why You Talk the Way You Do-And What It Says About You

How You Say It: Why You Talk the Way You Do-And What It Says About You

by Katherine D. Kinzler


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From “one of the most brilliant young psychologists of her generation” (Paul Bloom), a groundbreaking examination of how speech causes some of our deepest social divides—and how it can help us overcome them.

We gravitate toward people like us; it’s human nature. Race, class, and gender shape our social identities, and thus who we perceive as “like us” or “not like us”. But one overlooked factor can be even more powerful: the way we speak. As the pioneering psychologist  Katherine Kinzler reveals in How You Say It, the way we talk is central to our social identity because our speech largely reflects the voices we heard as children. We can change how we speak to some extent, whether by “code-switching” between dialects or learning a new language; over time, your speech even changes to reflect your evolving social identity and aspirations. But for the most part, we are forever marked by our native tongue—and are hardwired to prejudge others by theirs, often with serious consequences. Your accent alone can determine the economic opportunity or discrimination you encounter in life, making speech one of the most urgent social-justice issues of our day. Our linguistic differences present challenges, Kinzler shows, but they also can be a force for good. Humans can benefit from being exposed to multiple languages —a paradox that should inspire us to master this ancient source of tribalism, and rethink the role that speech plays in our society.


Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780544986558
Publisher: HMH Books
Publication date: 07/21/2020
Pages: 256
Sales rank: 68,876
Product dimensions: 6.00(w) x 9.10(h) x 1.10(d)

About the Author

KATHERINE D. KINZLER, PhD, is a professor of psychology at the University of Chicago. She holds degrees from Yale and Harvard, has written for the New York Times, and was recently named a “Young Scientist” by the World Economic Forum—one of 50 scientists under age 40 worldwide working to shape our future.

Table of Contents

Introduction: It's Not What You Say ix

Chapter 1 How You Speak Is Who You Are 1

Your Language Is Your Tribe. Burnouts and Valley Girls. Peers vs. Parents. Who's Afraid of RBG? Remembering in Russian.

Chapter 2 Native Tongues 28

Nabokov's Nanny. Give Me a Sign. The Wonder Years. Ghost in the Machine. "I'm Just Not as Funny in English!"

Chapter 3 How Language Divides Us 54

Scarlet Letters. Shibboleth. Toward Babel. Ugly Americans. Are People Nicer in the South? Linguistic Insecurity.

Chapter 4 Deep Talk 80

Organisms of Nature. Calls of the Wild. Out of Africa. Who Said What? Flurps and Zazzes.

Chapter 5 Little Bigots? 101

Mother Tongue. Social Animals. When in Rome. "Julie Isn't Racist!" Aladdin's Accent.

Chapter 6 On The Basis of Speech 125

"They Can't Even Speak English". In Talk We Trust. Living; Wage. Communication Skills. Speak Truth.

Chapter 7 A Linguistics Revolution 152

The Monolingual Myth. What Language Do You Use to Brush Your Teeth? The Bilingual Bonus. Polyglots Preferred. It's Elementary.

Afterword: It's Not What You Say 177

Acknowledgments 187

Notes 190

Index 224

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