A must-have guide for anyone who lives or works with young kids, with an introduction by Adele Faber, coauthor of How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk, the international mega-bestseller The Boston Globe dubbed “The Parenting Bible.”
For nearly forty years, parents have turned to How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk for its respectful and effective solutions to the unending challenges of raising children. Now, in response to growing demand, Adele’s daughter, Joanna Faber, along with Julie King, tailor How to Talk’s powerful communication skills to parents of children ages two to seven.
Faber and King, each a parenting expert in her own right, share their wisdom accumulated over years of conducting How To Talk workshops with parents, teachers, and pediatricians. With a lively combination of storytelling, cartoons, and observations from their workshops, they provide concrete tools and tips that will transform your relationship with the children in your life.
What do you do with a little kid who...won’t brush her teeth...screams in his car seat...pinches the baby...refuses to eat vegetables...throws books in the library...runs rampant in the supermarket? Organized by common challenges and conflicts, this book is an essential manual of communication strategies, including a chapter that addresses the special needs of children with sensory processing and autism spectrum disorders.
This user-friendly guide will empower parents and caregivers of young children to forge rewarding, joyful relationships with terrible two-year-olds, truculent three-year-olds, ferocious four-year-olds, foolhardy five-year-olds, self-centered six-year-olds, and the occasional semi-civilized seven-year-old. And, it will help little kids grow into self-reliant big kids who are cooperative and connected to their parents, teachers, siblings, and peers.
About the Author
Julie King has been educating and supporting parents since 1995. In addition to her work with individual parents and couples, she has led workshops for numerous schools, nonprofits, and parent groups. Julie received her AB from Princeton University and a JD from Yale Law School. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area and is the mother of three.
Table of Contents
Foreword Adele Faber xi
How It All Started Julie & Joanna xv
A Mote from the Authors xxi
Part I The Essential Toolbox 1
Chapter 1 Tools for Handling Emotions … What's All the Fuss about Feelings?-When kids don't feel right, they can't behave right 3
Chapter 2 Tools for Engaging Cooperation … Feelings Schmeelings, She Has to Brush Her Teeth-Getting kids to do what they have to do 43
Chapter 3 Tools for Resolving Conflict … Avoiding Combat on the Home Front-Replacing punishment with more peaceful, effective solutions 85
Chapter 4 Tools for Praise and Appreciation … Not All Odes Are Equal-Ways to praise that will help, not hinder 135
Chapter 5 Tools for Kids Who Are Differently Wired … Will This Work with My Kid?-Modifications for kids with autism and sensory issues 163
Chapter Five and a Quarter: The Basics … You Can't Talk Your Way Out of These-Conditions under which the tools won't work 203
Part II The Tools in Action 213
1 Food Fights-The Battle at the Kitchen Table 215
2 Morning Madness-Escaping the Intense Gravitational Pull of Your Home 231
3 Sibling Rivalry-Give the Baby Back! 241
4 Shopping with Children-Mayhem at the Market 257
5 Lies-Kids and the Creative Interpretation of Reality 263
6 Parents Have Feelings, Too 275
7 Tattling-Snitches and Whistle-Blowers 283
8 Cleanup-The Dirtiest Word 291
9 Doctor's Orders-Medicine, Shots, Blood Draws, and Other Horrors 301
10 Shy Kids-Fear of Friendly Folks 313
11 Little Runaways-Kids Who Take Off in the Parking Lot and Other Public Places 321
12 Hitting, Pinching, Poking, Punching, Pushing-I Barely Touched Him! 331
13 Sleep-The Holy Grail 339
14 When Parents Get Angryl 357
15 Troubleshooting-When the Tools Don't Work 369
The End? 385
Additional Resources 389
Reminder Index 395