Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married

Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married

by Abby Ellin

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ISBN-13: 9781610398015
Publisher: PublicAffairs
Publication date: 01/15/2019
Sold by: Hachette Digital, Inc.
Format: NOOK Book
Sales rank: 28,119
File size: 2 MB

About the Author

Abby Ellin is an award-winning journalist and the author of Teenage Waistland: A Former Fat Kid Weighs In On Living Large, Losing Weight and How Parents Can (and Can't) Help. For five years she wrote the "Preludes" column about young people and money for the Sunday Money and Business section of the New York Times. She is also a regular contributor to the Health, Style, Business and Education sections of the New York Times. Her work has been published in The New York Times Magazine, New York, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times Magazine, Psychology Today, Time, Newsweek, the Village Voice, the Boston Phoenix, Salon, Marie Claire, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, and Spy (RIP). She holds an MFA in Creative Writing from Emerson College and a Masters in International Public Policy from Johns Hopkins University. As of this writing, her greatest accomplishments are summiting Kilimanjaro (with a broken wrist!) and naming "Karamel Sutra" ice cream for Ben and Jerry's.

Table of Contents

1 Gaslit: A Love Story 1

2 The Secret Lives of Almost Everyone 33

3 Who Are the People in Your Neighborhood? 47

4 The Joy of Lying 71

5 A Life Divided 91

6 Post-Deception Stress Disorder 115

7 "I Knew but I Didn't Know" 137

8 Little Pink Lies 163

9 In God We Trust-Everyone Else, We Polygraph 187

10 Verify, but Don't Trust 209

Acknowledgments 223

Notes 229

Index 251

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Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married 4 out of 5 based on 0 ratings. 4 reviews.
ody 13 days ago
3.5 of 5.0 Stars After the author, a writer who considers herself pretty savvy when it comes to people, finds that she’s been totally conned in her personal relationship, she decides to write a book about that experience and more. She tells what happened with “The Commander” as she called him, a doctor who was a Marine and took off all over doing deeds of good at a moment’s notice. All top secret and hush-hush, of course. She had a healthy skepticism but continued seeing him and got sucked in and they got engaged and moved in together. Then it got harder to ignore the things that didn’t add up. Eventually, the situation blew itself up and they split up after his stories became a bit too much. But the book is done with that in the first little bit and goes on much longer about double lives and people who deceive and live falsely. I rather expected more of a story about her being duped I suppose. I didn’t realize the relationship was so short lived. Just so you know, it’s more about other people than just the man who tricked her.
TheBookishHooker 4 months ago
Abby Ellin has been duped. The man she loved and hoped to marry has been found to be a fraud...a lying, cheating fraud. And she's about to tell you all about it and the psychology behind these career liars and what makes them do what they do. The premise of the book is fascinating. I've seen stories like hers on shows like Dr. Phil and Dateline, but never knew the victim's side of the story so in depth. We look on these cases and think they could never happen to us, but the author shows us just how wrong we really are. I'll be honest, I couldn't put this book down. Her details of her own personal duping and the additional cases she introduced to the story were fascinating. The overall tone of the book was great, too. Instead of the book being bitter from her fraud or being dry with the psychology details, she finds a way to blend it all in a slightly irreverent tongue in cheek manner that is fun to read. I rarely see a non-fiction book that keeps me as interested as this one did. Thank you to NetGalley and Perseus Books for the advanced copy in exchange for an honest review.
Shelly9677 5 months ago
Surprisingly captivating! This book had me turning the pages well after midnight and well after my eyes wanted to close. The author tells the stories of duplicitous individuals in a fascinating and engaging manner. I was hooked form page one. I appreciated the scientific anecdotes alongside the enthralling narratives. Five stars.
Jane Adams 5 months ago
A compulsively well written cautionary tale of duplicity by a journalist who was conned and betrayed by a man who wasn't who he said he was, Abby Ellin confesses at the start what all women who find themselves the victim of similar circumstances eventually realize - they trusted the wrong man and they should have known better. She tells her tale with honesty, verve and style - it's easy to understand why she took the man she calls the Commander at his word; after all, she google him, and nothing that turned up in her cursory background search alerted her. At least, not enough to dissuade her from following her heart, and him, to another city, or check up on him any further. While the authors own story sets up the template for many of the other instances she relates of people who've been duped or betrayed or swindled, it's her own that's the most interesting because she's the one the reader knows best: It's easier to care about the singular than the plural. Still, Ellin marshals enough statistics, references and case histories to make her case, which is that being victimized by a liar, especially in matters of the heart, is not an uncommon experience, and that it damaged one's sense of self ever after.