Discovering the Inner Mother: A Guide to Healing the Mother Wound and Claiming Your Personal Power

Discovering the Inner Mother: A Guide to Healing the Mother Wound and Claiming Your Personal Power

by Bethany Webster


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Sure to become a classic on female empowerment, a groundbreaking exploration of the personal, cultural, and global implications of intergenerational trauma created by patriarchy, how it is passed down from mothers to daughters, and how we can break this destructive cycle.

Why do women keep themselves small and quiet? Why do they hold back professionally and personally? What fuels the uncertainty and lack of confidence so many women often feel? In this paradigm-shifting book, leading feminist thinker Bethany Webster identifies the source of women’s trauma. She calls it the Mother Wound—the systemic disenfranchisement of women by the patriarchy—and reveals how this cycle is perpetuated by wounded mothers who unconsciously pass on damaging beliefs and behaviors to their daughters.

In her workshops, online courses, and talks, Webster has helped countless women re-examine their lives and their relationships with their mothers, giving them the vocabulary to voice their pain, and encouraging them to share their experiences. In this manifesto and self-help guide, she offers practical tools for identifying the manifestations of the Mother Wound in our daily life and strategies we can use to heal ourselves and prevent our daughters from enduring the same pain. In addition, she offers step-by-step advice on how to reconnect with our inner child, grieve the mother we didn’t have, stop people-pleasing, and, ultimately, transform our heartache and anger into healing and self-love.

Revealing how women are affected by the Mother Wound, even if they don’t personally identify as survivors, Discovering the Inner Mother revolutionizes how we view mother-daughter relationships and gives us the inspiration and guidance we need to improve our lives and ultimately create a more equitable society for all.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780062884442
Publisher: HarperCollins Publishers
Publication date: 01/05/2021
Pages: 304
Sales rank: 100,393
Product dimensions: 6.20(w) x 9.00(h) x 1.20(d)

About the Author

In 2013 Bethany Webster published an article entitled “Why it’s Crucial for Women to Heal the Mother Wound” based on a body of work she had been developing in isolation over the course of 15 years. Overnight, the article went viral as women around the world shared it on social media, discussed it with their friends, and began referencing it in new blogs and podcasts. Although work by writers such as Adrienne Rich and Christiane Northrup had touched on the concept of a Mother Wound, no one had yet fleshed out exactly what the Mother Wound is and why it remains a universal experience of women the world over. Bethany's work addresses a crucial gap in our understanding of women’s psychology and empowerment by comprehensively defining the Mother Wound and how it manifests in women’s lives.  Through blending cutting-edge research on intergenerational trauma, feminist theory, and psychology with her own personal story, Bethany's work is the result of decades of research and her own journey of healing. Bethany speaks, consults and mentors around the world sharing her growing body of work that is raising the standard of women’s leadership and personal development. Learn more at 

Table of Contents

Author's Note xi

Introduction xiii

Chapter 1 What Is the Mother Wound? 1

Chapter 2 How Does the Mother Wound Manifest? 23

Chapter 3 Power Dynamics of the Mother Wound 42

Chapter 4 What Keeps the Mother Wound in Place, and Why Does It Endure? 69

Chapter 5 The Mother Gap 88

Chapter 6 Signs You Need to Make a Change 106

Chapter 7 The Rupture of the Mother Line and the Cost of Becoming Real 116

Chapter 8 Boundaries 136

Chapter 9 The Taboo of Questioning Mother 155

Chapter 10 Giving Up the Impossible Dream 166

Chapter 11 Accountability 178

Chapter 12 Grieving 189

Chapter 13 Discovering the Inner Mother 206

Chapter 14 Life Beyond the Mother Wound 229

Conclusion: Emergent Woman: Releasing the "Pleaser" and Making Peace with Our Power 244

Acknowledgments 255

Appendix: Clinical Resources on Complex Developmental Trauma, Psychotherapy, and the Neurosciences 257

Bibliography 269

Permissions 271

Index 273

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