With Daily Life Strategies for Teens, Jay provides a day-by-day guide to life that will show you how to boost self-confidence, build friendships, resist peer pressure, and achieve your goals.
Packed with quotes, ideas, and inspiration, Jay McGraw's straightforward, insightful, and humorous guide gives you a road map for surviving and thriving in your teen years and beyond.
Using the techniques from Dr. Phillip C. McGraw's Life Strategies, his son Jay shows teens how to put the Life Laws into effect every day.
Take the steps to make your life the best it can be!
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"To drift is to be in hell; to be in heaven is to steer."
-- George Bernard Shaw
What are Life Strategies? Simply this: Plans for obtaining the things that matter to you in life.
Knowing what you don't want in life is important because that makes it easier to identify the things you want to eliminate from your life.
Ask yourself these questions every morning while you're contemplating getting out of bed:
"What do I want?"
"What is it I want to do in order to make my life better?"
"What is it I want to do to feel that I'm living with some passion and some kick-ass excitement?"
"What do I want to add to my life?" "What do I want to eliminate?"
Do you think you've got the power to make big changes in your life to get what you want? Or do you think that because you're not yet self-supporting and on your own that you're pretty much stuck with what life gives you? I promise you, you've got a lot more personal power than you realize. You just aren't yet aware of how to use it.
You cannot "cram" for life.
Everything you will ever be, you are now becoming. It's okay to live in the moment, but the choices you are making now are the building blocks for where you will be later.
In order to get what you want now and set yourself up for what you want later, you have to take charge of the things that you can influence, and you have to stop whining about the things you cannot. Start thinking about which are which.
We can bloom where we are planted. We can make our lives work right where we are.
Being a success and being a winner don't just happen. But you can make them happen if you know the rules and learn to play by them.
You are in control of your life in many ways you aren't yet even aware of. If you understand and use the Ten Life Laws every day, you will receive the level of trust and independence you think you deserve. You will reach that point of self-confidence at which you will no longer be nervous around anyone in your life. You'll know that you'll have the inner strength to handle any predicament. You'll know that you have the tools to make the right choices to get the results you want.
"The secret to success is to know something nobody else knows."
-- Aristotle Onassis
The Life Laws are in effect 24/7. When you violate these Life Laws, you very simply get what you don't want, and you don't get what you do want.
There is nothing more frustrating than trying to play a game when you don't know the rules, you don't know the objective, and you don't have the skills that you need to be good at the game. But everything is easy when you know how the game works. Life, in many ways, is a series of games that have rules and skill requirements, just like any other game.
If you are gong to win the game of life, you have to understand the rules of the game. You also have to know the penalties and rewards associated with breaking those rules.
If you're not in control, then you're probably following the Ten Loser Laws of Life, the laws that make you a passenger in life instead of the driver:
- 1. You Just Make It Up as You Go Along.
- 2. It's Written in the Stars.
- 3. The Devil Made You Do It.
- 4. Denial Really Is a River in Egypt.
- 5. Be Patient; Life Will Eventually Deliver.
- 6. Life Is What It Is.
- 7. Get It Right Once and You Are Home Free.
- 8. People Are What They Are.
- 9. Get Even Through Grudges.
- 10. Live Lucky.
If you choose to ignore the Life Laws and stumble along, wondering why you never seem to succeed, you will cheat yourself out of everything you deserve. So take the time to learn the Life Laws, adapt to them, and mold your choices and behavior to them.
This is the best time possible to develop a life strategy. This is the time of life when you can build the foundation upon which you will launch the rest of your life. This is the time when you can learn the right way to stand up for yourself and learn to stand up to yourself.
Many of us have just stopped dreaming and we now simply react to whatever life deals us on any given day. The problem is, if you have no idea of what you want, if you have no idea of what your life would include and not include, it is almost impossible to make any kind of plan or live with any kind of purpose.
Here is a promise you must make to yourself: You have to be willing to start wanting again, and that means identifying what it is that will make you happy.
Are you out of touch with your deepest dreams? The time to start thinking about this is now.
Here is another promise you must be willing to make to yourself every single day: You must be willing to change.
When it comes to taking positive risks, taking a real chance that can actually cause a significant change in your life, isn't it true that you are resistant to risk and change because either they seem too hard to face or you fear the unknown?
"You miss 100 percent of the shots you never take."
-- Wayne Gretzky
If you want to be outstanding -- no matter what it is you want to do -- then you're first going to have to stand up for yourself. You may find that the person who is truly holding you back is not a parent or a teacher or the world in general. What's holding you back is you.
You Either Get it or Your Don't
reminder of why you should know life law one:
to be able to discover and use the huge power you have to change your life. Learn how the game is played so you can get unstuck and have more of what you want and need. Stop being ticked off and start winning. Become someone who gets it.
People who "get it" have eliminated the types of behavior that just don't benefit them in the long run, and they have figured out what it's going to take to get the results they want.
People who "get it" don't stew over their problems. They don't look for excuses about why they can't get things done, and they don't get angry and pout about how life can be so unfair.
Copyright © 2002 by Jay McGraw
Most Helpful Customer Reviews
Oh My Gosh. I am Female who is 16 years of age. I have been depressed for a long time. Mostly how i have been braught up in my life and then having my father cheat and walk out on my mother for a while (it could have been worse, thank goodness it wasn't!). I had been throwing up my meals and also hurting myself by cutting (Self-Injurering), neither of my parents knew, very easy to hide if your parents don't know what they should be looking for. Month after month i would come across Jay's book, either hearing it on T.V. or radio, word of mouth or net, etc. I asked my mother (who is some what diffcult to get along with, she has a personality disorder, narssistic!) to get this book for me. She rolled her eyes and exclaimed to me "Mill! Is this going to be another teen book you read for 2 seconds and place on your shelf and never read much less look at it again?" I realized then that i had done that with every teen book that told me that it would help me. I was determinded i was going to not be predictable by my mother and to prove her wrong. So, she got the book for me. I first started reading it because i wanted to prove to my mother that i wasn't going to stick it just back on the shelf and forget about it. After i turned the second page i realized that i was doing this for ME and myself only. No longer my MOTHER. I was doing something to help me. I wanted the help and was ready for the help. Now, i have only cut once and its been 4 months (which is huge, i would cut 3 or 4 times daily). I no longer throw up my meals (also did that 3 times a day). I have read Jay's book 8 times already and won't take it off of my night stand. It has changed my life and Jay is truely about helping the 'teens' of today! I felt like he really cared and that he was a teen himself that was wiser and has "got it" before the rest of us! I highly recomend it! I have decided to become a consuler or a writer or something to where i can work with teens of today and help them "get it" just as Jay was able to help me "get it"! Thanks Jay!!
Life Strategies for Teens is a superb book. If you have to choose between this book and that one, go for that one. On the other hand, if you would like to reread the key ideas in Life Strategies for Teens, this book is a reasonably good resource for doing that. You would, however, benefit more by creating your own set of notes about Life Strategies for Teens that emphasizes that is most important for you to focus on. If that is hard for you to do, you could use this book as an outline from which you could abstract a briefer, and more relevant personal outline. Most of the entries are devoted to the 10 Life Laws: 1. ¿You either get it, or you don¿t.¿ January 26 2. ¿You create your own experience.¿ February 27 3. ¿People do what works.¿ March 16 4. ¿You cannot change what you do not acknowledge.¿ March 29 5. ¿Life rewards action.¿ May 8 6. ¿There is no reality, only perception.¿ June 2 7. ¿Life is managed. It is not cured.¿ July 9 8. ¿We teach people how to treat us.¿ August 29 9. ¿There is power in forgiveness.¿ October 4 10. ¿You have to name it before you can claim it.¿ November 15 A section on the challenges of sex and drugs begins on December 11. As you can see, making this a calendar presents something of a problem. Buy the book much past January 1, and you will feel strange reading it unless you wait until 2003 to start. A better design would have been to let you start whenever you got the book, and write in your own dates. But obviously, you can just write in your own dates and start whenever you get it. I thought the better pages were the ones with questions to answer. Unfortunately, there were a lot fewer of these questions than in Life Strategies for Teens. You can find lots of good questions, however, in the Life Strategies for Teens Workbook, which I also recommend. Should you read this book? If that¿s your learning style, to glance at something each day to get a thought or two, yes. If that¿s not your learning style, refer back to the workbook questions instead -- one per day. May you find processes that help you build the most helpful habits that you want to establish! Donald Mitchell, co-author of The 2,000 Percent Solution and The Irresistible Growth Enterprise