Confessions of the Other Mother: Nonbiological Lesbian Moms Tell All

Confessions of the Other Mother: Nonbiological Lesbian Moms Tell All

by Harlyn Aizley (Editor)


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A 2006 Lambda Literary finalist in the LGBT anthology category 

After author Harlyn Aizley gave birth to her daughter, she watched in unanticipated horror as her partner scooped up the baby and said, "I'm your new mommy!" While they both had worked to find the perfect sperm donor, Aizley had spent nine months carrying the baby and hours in labor, so how could her partner claim to be their child's mommy?

Many diapers later, Aizley began to appreciate the complexity of her partner's new role as the other mother. Together, they searched for stories about families like their own, in which a woman has chosen to forgo her own birth experience so that she might support her partner in hers. They found very few. Now, in Confessions of the Other Mother, Aizley has put together an exciting collection of personal stories by women like her partner who are creating new parenting roles, redefining motherhood, and reshaping our view of two-parent families. Contributors include Hillary Goodridge, who was one of the lead plaintiffs in the case for same-sex marriage in Massachusetts, stand-up comedian Judy Gold, and psychologist and author Suzanne M. Johnson.

This candid peek into a previously unexamined side of lesbian parenting is full of stories that are sometimes humorous, sometimes moving, but at all times celebratory. Each parenting tale sheds light on the many facets of motherhood, offering gay and straight readers alike a deeper understanding of what it means to love and parent in the twenty-first century.

Product Details

ISBN-13: 9780807079638
Publisher: Beacon Press
Publication date: 05/15/2006
Pages: 208
Sales rank: 325,231
Product dimensions: 5.49(w) x 8.51(h) x 0.49(d)

About the Author

Harlyn Aizley is the author of Buying Dad: One Woman's Search for the Perfect Sperm Donor. Her work has appeared in national journals, magazines, and anthologies and has aired on public radio stations nationwide. Aizley resides in the Boston area with her family, where she works as a writer and teacher.

Table of Contents

Introduction: Mommy Deliriousix
Part 1Birth, Babies, and Beyond
Trouble with Pink13
High-Femme Dad19
And You Are?31
Confessions of a Lesbian Dad35
Who's Your Daddy?67
Betsy Loves Bobbies77
Naked Brunch81
From the Outposts of Lesbian Parenting87
Parenting as a Subversive Activity93
Life as Mama101
Mr. Anonymous113
Part 2Mucking with the Stuff: Two Nonbios Become Bio, and Two Bios Turn Non
Mommy Times Two125
Yours, Mine, and Ours129
Two Ubermoms Are Better Than One135
Part 3Arriving When the Show Already has Started: A Lesbian "Stepmom"
Family of the Heart149

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